I think a lot depends on the person -- or more accurately, the two people -- involved. In other words, the timeframe for what felt right with my previous partner may very well be different from what's right with my next partner.
Personally, I've never chosen even to kiss anyone who I haven't known for several months. This has nothing to do with a belief that this is universally or even generally the right way to go. Rather, it has everything to do with knowing myself: I know that I'm pretty slow to trust others and need the security of an established friendship before I'm willing to make myself vulnerable. (And I do consider progressing in terms of a romantic/sexual/intimate relationship "making myself vulnerable".)
But different people have different personalities, needs, and comfort levels. How they all work together in any particular relationship is what determines, I think, what is "right" to do and when.
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Date: 2007-01-21 05:50 am (UTC)Personally, I've never chosen even to kiss anyone who I haven't known for several months. This has nothing to do with a belief that this is universally or even generally the right way to go. Rather, it has everything to do with knowing myself: I know that I'm pretty slow to trust others and need the security of an established friendship before I'm willing to make myself vulnerable. (And I do consider progressing in terms of a romantic/sexual/intimate relationship "making myself vulnerable".)
But different people have different personalities, needs, and comfort levels. How they all work together in any particular relationship is what determines, I think, what is "right" to do and when.