I can get aroused and finish very quickly, so I sympathize.
Personally, PIV sex doesn't feel good after I orgasm (and I climax from PIV sex), so I make sure to do other things to delay. I try to go very slowly and really take my time enjoying foreplay. Once I find myself getting highly aroused, I'll give my husband oral sex and spend a lot of time focusing on him which allows me to cool off a little bit. He also takes a while to finish, so the oral sex (or occasionally just hands) really helps him a lot. Then when we're both ready for PIV it's a matter of finding the right position (one that won't make me cum too fast).
So, I think maybe spending extra time on your bf might help.
I'm sure many people will disagree with me, but as for the multiple orgasms thing, I think *some* women are capable of it and others are not. Judge as you will, but as a long time listener of Love Line, I've heard Dr. Drew state a number of times that some women are multi-orgasmic and some are not. I don't know specifically where he gets his information from, but according to him, you cannot make a non-multi-orgasmic women (as in a woman who would orgasm once during sexual stimulation) into a woman who can have many. At least for me, I have to go at least 20-30 minutes before attempting to have another orgasm after I've already had one. Often times the second one is less intense/fulfilling and I'd just rather not even bother.
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Date: 2006-03-06 05:40 pm (UTC)I can get aroused and finish very quickly, so I sympathize.
Personally, PIV sex doesn't feel good after I orgasm (and I climax from PIV sex), so I make sure to do other things to delay. I try to go very slowly and really take my time enjoying foreplay. Once I find myself getting highly aroused, I'll give my husband oral sex and spend a lot of time focusing on him which allows me to cool off a little bit. He also takes a while to finish, so the oral sex (or occasionally just hands) really helps him a lot. Then when we're both ready for PIV it's a matter of finding the right position (one that won't make me cum too fast).
So, I think maybe spending extra time on your bf might help.
I'm sure many people will disagree with me, but as for the multiple orgasms thing, I think *some* women are capable of it and others are not. Judge as you will, but as a long time listener of Love Line, I've heard Dr. Drew state a number of times that some women are multi-orgasmic and some are not. I don't know specifically where he gets his information from, but according to him, you cannot make a non-multi-orgasmic women (as in a woman who would orgasm once during sexual stimulation) into a woman who can have many. At least for me, I have to go at least 20-30 minutes before attempting to have another orgasm after I've already had one. Often times the second one is less intense/fulfilling and I'd just rather not even bother.