Y'know, your post was just like I would have been writing it. O_o And after reading some comments here I'm surprised that I'm not alone! I fantasize about stuff like that too and very rarely they involve my boyfriend. Most of the time they are complete strangers or fictional characters. And yes, sometimes rape (or rather, domination) is involved too and the whole me being blindfolded and some guy doing things to me and I don't know him or cannot stop him-scene. But while I can fantazise and get aroused about stuff like that, I'm sure I wouldn't get a kick out of that if it actually happened. So it's just in my mind. And I dearly love my boyfriend and would never even consider cheating on him, and that I am sure of. I just have weird fantasies warring against reality. :P
And about the orgasm thing, I'm the same as you on that too. I get really nice orgasms all by myself but I've never had one with my boyfriend. If he tries to use the vibrator on me it doesn't work at all and even him just watching me do it to myself makes orgasming harder. I'm going to work on that though and make myself come in front of him first, then I'll try to teach him to use the vibra on me better and so on and so on... And maybe one day I can actually have an orgasm when having sex with him. :P
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Date: 2005-05-28 10:42 pm (UTC)And about the orgasm thing, I'm the same as you on that too. I get really nice orgasms all by myself but I've never had one with my boyfriend. If he tries to use the vibrator on me it doesn't work at all and even him just watching me do it to myself makes orgasming harder. I'm going to work on that though and make myself come in front of him first, then I'll try to teach him to use the vibra on me better and so on and so on... And maybe one day I can actually have an orgasm when having sex with him. :P