speaking from a guy's point of view; if you are having sex with a guy and he is bothered by your asking for something specific (or even general!) about how you would like him to play to make it more enjoyable for you, I would suggest that he isn't worth bothering with in the first place. My opinion (I tend to have lots of opinions) is that he should ask what you like BEFORE and while you are playing; asking after the fact about 'was it good for you?' is kind of late. If he doesn't ask, tell him; if he isn't asking you, I feel HE is being rude, there is no reason to not tell him; you are being a good partner if you are NOT passive about asserting what you want. This is for both of you, not just for him to stroke his ego that he is such a wonderful lover (who really isn't since he isn't asking). Try it, you might be surprised at the positive reaction you get!
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Date: 2011-12-29 11:24 pm (UTC)Try it, you might be surprised at the positive reaction you get!