Disclaimer: I'm only 19 so my opinion might not mean anything to you! However, I've been fascinated by sexuality since I was a kid & have frequent conversations with my 56-year-old mom about her experiences in comparison to my own.
I've heard that women's peak is supposedly at age 36 on average. (Note that this is an average, meaning you could totally peak way earlier, way later, or both!) Recently I read a theory somewhere that the reason this happens (other than hormonal factors?) is that the vaginal walls get thinner as you age, so if you're G-spot's been really buried in there your whole life, it's around this time that you might start to get more sensation out of stimulating it.
As for the issue of your lubricant (or lack thereof) - I'm not sure what kind of sex you're having, so it's hard to tell whether you're already naturally doing this, but it might be a good idea for you or your partner to find the wettest spot inside you (once you're already turned on) & try to spread some lube around from there. I sometimes find that my lubrication pools inside me in a certain spot, leaving my opening comparitively dry, which can make penetration annoyingly difficult even if I'm super turned on. It needs to be spread around a bit.
Beyond that - there's nothing wrong with using store-bought lube! I know tons of people who use large amounts of lube every time they have sex & say it has positively & massively changed the way they feel about sex. Just make sure you get a kind that works for you (i.e. no glycerine or other yeast-infection-provoking ingredients; no oil-based lubes if you plan to use condoms, etc).
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Date: 2011-12-04 10:54 am (UTC)I've heard that women's peak is supposedly at age 36 on average. (Note that this is an average, meaning you could totally peak way earlier, way later, or both!) Recently I read a theory somewhere that the reason this happens (other than hormonal factors?) is that the vaginal walls get thinner as you age, so if you're G-spot's been really buried in there your whole life, it's around this time that you might start to get more sensation out of stimulating it.
As for the issue of your lubricant (or lack thereof) - I'm not sure what kind of sex you're having, so it's hard to tell whether you're already naturally doing this, but it might be a good idea for you or your partner to find the wettest spot inside you (once you're already turned on) & try to spread some lube around from there. I sometimes find that my lubrication pools inside me in a certain spot, leaving my opening comparitively dry, which can make penetration annoyingly difficult even if I'm super turned on. It needs to be spread around a bit.
Beyond that - there's nothing wrong with using store-bought lube! I know tons of people who use large amounts of lube every time they have sex & say it has positively & massively changed the way they feel about sex. Just make sure you get a kind that works for you (i.e. no glycerine or other yeast-infection-provoking ingredients; no oil-based lubes if you plan to use condoms, etc).