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I think the best way to have tough talks is to be as absolutely non-accusatory as possible. This may or may not work for you, and might sound slightly backwards, but I find that sometimes when broaching difficult topics with my boyfriend, it works a little bit better if I ask him whether or not I am doing something wrong, or if there is anything I could do to help remedy the "problem". I try to do that before attempting to explain my feelings, as I feel it helps to take some of the blame and guilt off of him, so maybe that would help him with the defensiveness and sensitivity to the topic? Also, try asking him how he feels about your sex life, and if there's anything stressing him out outside of your relationship that you might be able to help him with. Stress can do a lot of damage to a sex life, believe me, and his lack of libido might have nothing to do with his attraction to you. A lot of guys tend to lean more towards wanting to be the "protector" so to speak, so maybe he doesn't want to burden with you with how he's feeling about certain issues, like something with work or school or even family. Agh sorry for the novel! I hope this helps, and good luck with everything!