vaginapagina | Update- Vasectomy Talks (Reply)

I had my big talk this weekend. We had some down time after the kids were in bed so I asked him to check his email. I had emailed him stories I found and info/websites on vasectomies..even pictures. LOL He read everything and was actually very surprised how fast it was (usually 7-15 minutes). After he read it I asked him what he thought about everything he read. He said he wasn't really worried about me getting pregnant. So we talked about the fact that I am not on any type of hormones and I am having periods..etc etc. I reminded him about another couple we know that had adopted 2 kids and she got pregnant several years later. We look over my labs that show I am functioning normally now. Then I asked him if there was anything AT ALL inside him that would make him want another child. He quickly answered no. He said..let me think about all this. A few hours later he says "I am going to schedule it for my break". I asked him if he was sure. I asked him why he decided to do it..was it for me, or was it because he knew he didn't want more children. He said he was doing it because he didn't want more children and he surely didn't want to have to wear condoms. LOL I told him "maybe we should wait a little longer (break comes up in a few weeks) and really think about it." I knew I would be upset once the choice had been made. It's hard to say for sure you will NEVER give birth when you have wanted to do it so badly. I told him he would need to be alot stronger than me..because I know it will be hard to, once again, medically take it off the table. He said I should consider it already done as he would not be changing his mind. I cried..alot. He was comforting and wonderful and we will be fine:)

In the end, what is best for my family is what will happen and he has realized that my body has changed and we are now needing to be careful and aware until this is done.

Thank you for all the advice. Many of you were right about what I needed to do..you girls are awesome!