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I can relate to your friend. I'm happy with what I feel is pretty bland sex and enjoy that the most while my boyfriend enjoys doing more/different things that just kind of distract me or cause me discomfort. Neither of us are right or wrong, just different. I'm still working on getting to be comfortable with some of these things, for me it is much easier to feel mosr comfortable and confident with the lights off and familiar or non-lyrical music going so I am more focused on just the connection and sensations and less on a step by steo over conscious feeling.... so maybe suggest to her noisy darkness and suggestions from her partner? focus on the fact that it makes the person she's with happy... also I agree with the above comment that sometimes it's easier to talk about sex related things in an impersonal way such as the internet or in writing, face to face leave too much room for laughing and tickle attacking =)