What it comes down to in the end is do what you're comfortable with and don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable (even if it is pleasuring him). I can certainly understand wanting to have sex instead of oral sex. You have to be in the right kind of mood to have your face that close to a penis =) There is no "right order" for sex. It's not like a kissing->touching->fingering->oral->sex flowchart. You can go in any order that you want, and do some things and not do others.
My first time, I had no idea what I was doing. I just lay there and let him do the work. But the second time, when I took more of an iniative and just jumped on it was a LOT better. It didn't hurt for me, but it does for some people.
You don't HAVE to have sex or give him oral. It's not like you have to choose one or the other. You can do one, or both, or none at all. Don't feel guilted into having sex because you don't want to preform oral sex.
Do what feels right to you. If you do decide to have sex use protection. And remember, you can always decide that you want to try it and change your mind at any point
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Date: 2007-10-29 05:16 pm (UTC)I can certainly understand wanting to have sex instead of oral sex. You have to be in the right kind of mood to have your face that close to a penis =)
There is no "right order" for sex. It's not like a kissing->touching->fingering->oral->sex flowchart. You can go in any order that you want, and do some things and not do others.
My first time, I had no idea what I was doing. I just lay there and let him do the work. But the second time, when I took more of an iniative and just jumped on it was a LOT better. It didn't hurt for me, but it does for some people.
You don't HAVE to have sex or give him oral. It's not like you have to choose one or the other. You can do one, or both, or none at all. Don't feel guilted into having sex because you don't want to preform oral sex.
Do what feels right to you. If you do decide to have sex use protection. And remember, you can always decide that you want to try it and change your mind at any point