2007-09-22

Tightening Lub

I remember awhile I was surfing a website and they sold a lubricant that supposedly tightened you up inside, almost as if you were a virgin all over again. My best friend is looking for this and I can't remember the site.

Does any know where I can find it?

THANKS!

Sexual Assult?

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Current Mood: distressed

Birth Control; Bleeding TOO MUCH

I'm sixteen and in December I began taking birth control because I was on my period three times a month. However, it would be like 7 days, 2 days, 7 days. So, they put me on birth control. Now I'm getting my periods MORE. Sometimes I bleed for months at a time, currently my cycle was 9 days, 5 days, ? days (just got it again today). I've tried three different birth controls and similar results. Should I just stop altogether and go back to bleeding three times a month?

Note: I don't always take it at the same time every night... could this be a problem?

removing nuva ring early

last month i had a super bad YI for like the entire month and this month when i inserted my new ring,it started being irritated and feeling like a YI again, so i assume that my nuva ring is what is causing all this itching and burning and i don't want to use it anymore. i'm planning to switch to the pill after i get my next period. i've only had the ring in for 7 days, but i dont think i can stand the irritation for 2 more weeks until i get my period so i was just going to take it out now.
is this really bad for my body to just stop the hormones in the middle of the cycle? is it going to screw up when i get my period? i just can't stand to have the ring in for 2 more weeks of misery until my cycle is over and i can switch birth control.

Current Location: Work

Switching Birth Control

I have endometriosis and am worried about messing with my current birth control, Yasmin, but it has gotten to be much too expensive. Are there any birth controls similar to Yasmin? Has anyone switched from Yasmin to another different one without much trouble? Thank you so much!

Current Mood: hopeless.

stopping and restarting BC?

ok here's the deal...
i have to take a break in my BC. i cant afford to pay for my pack that i would need to start taking in a week. would it completely throw me out of whack to skip it until i CAN afford it? and what would be the scheduling frame for starting it back?

ETA: im on micronor, which has no placebos, and which has caused me to have EXTREMELY irregular periods. as in one every 2-3 months or so.

Am I the only girl who doesn't feel the urge to masturbate?

Am I the only girl who doesn't feel much desire to masturbate? I mean, I'm not asexual by any means, my boyfriend and I have a healthy sex life and all of that and when I'm around him I get really horny, but by myself I don't ever really have the urge to finger myself! Also, when I do have the urge for alone stimulation, I go straight to the faucet, because I think I am too lazy (ah that's horrible!) to get there by fingering myself, and also I find it kind of messy - my finger gets all slimy and and the faucet is just quick and effective and not slimy.

So what I'm getting at is, I guess it doesn't really bother me that I don't have any need to stimulate myself, but whenever we're in bed my boyfriend will ask me how I masturbate/to show him/wants to do it together/etc, and I don't know I always just say I don't do it too terribly often (which is true) because I feel like it would be a let down to tell him that I never have the urge to really and that I don't even have fully developed skills in that category or know how to do it extremely well! :/ Because I know that he's asking because he's looking to be turned on by visuals or fantasies about it.

Cyst/Pimple on the vagina : (

About a week ago i was going to the bathroom and nocticed a pimple like bump on my right labia, it had a white head, so i thought maybe i should pop it so i tried, and i few days later it seemed to be fairly larger and worse.

It sorta burns to touch now, and it is white like there puss inside of it, but im not exactly sure if it is a cyst or a pimple.

i put some bactine on it and seems to be clearing up a little bit.

im kinda to scared of what this might be.

bladder infections

I come to you guys with your vast amount of knowledge with a rather complex question. I've already talked to doctors about it, three family physicians, my gyno, and a urologist and no one seems to have an answer for me and haven't seen anything like it.

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Low sex drive, and hormonal birth control

Sooo, hello! Great community - I hope to spend a lot more time here :)

So, I read through the tags on libido, but no one seemed to have talked about quite what I wanted to talk about....

I've been with my partner for about a year and a half now. Before that I had a couple of casual boyfriends and a few one-off sexual partners, but I always found sex to be a bit of a let-down. I'm quite an anxious person, and I had a really horrible, painful experience the first time I had sex, so it took me ages to become comfortable with sex, and to start to relax. Anyway, now I'm with my partner and things are pretty good - he manages to get me off using his fingers, which no one else managed to do previously! I still never come from actual intercourse, but I figure that's pretty normal so I'm not so worried.

Basically, though, I still seem to have a pretty low sex drive. When my partner initiates it, I can get in the mood pretty quickly, but if he doesn't initiate sex it basically doesn't enter my mind...I just never find myself feeling turned on without being prompted. And I enjoy sex, but it's not an overwhelming experience. I never feel 'swept away' and find myself wondering what the big deal is...

I was on the pill a few times when I was younger, and I seem to remember that my libido actually disappeared completely while I was taking it. I actively avoided sex. So that was no good! I've been using only condoms as birth control for a few years now, which was fine when I was just having sex very occasionally, but now that I'm with my partner we're looking for something that means we don't have to use condoms....and the pill is the cheapest and most obvious choice, but I'm terrified of losing what little sex drive I've already got! When I mentioned that I didn't want the pill my doc recommended the Nuvaring, but it's still hormonal so I'm not convinced. I'd like an IUD, but my doctor won't do it for me - I'd have to go to a Family Planning Clinic, and their waiting lists are loooong. I'm still keen though, since the FPC have a good gyno who comes in to do the insertions. But if Nuvaring is low on side effects I'd be willing to consider it.

So! After all that waffle, my questions are:

Does anyone else have a problem with low libido? Is it usually a physical thing, or psychological? Any point trying herbal remedies for some more vim and vigour?! (I'm in very good health, could exercise a bit more but am no couch potato.)

And what're everyone's opinions on Nuvaring, regarding side effects? Anyone notice a change to their libido while using it? I might ask this on the Nuvaring comm too so apologies for spamming...

In case it helps, I'm 22 and living in Australia. And feeling a bit silly that I've never been brave enough to discuss sex drive with any of my friends :") Hope someone can help!

Diva Cup leakage

Sooo I love my diva cup, but during the past few cycles I've encountered a problem. The cup is fully open, it's inserted correctly, but I still get some leakage. Either on my underwear, or just when I go to the washroom. When I take it out to make sure that it's inserted properly, I find that there's a TON of blood on the outside, and it's not really that full. So it's not that it's overflowing or anything. I don't understand why it's leaking all of a sudden...it never used to do this, and I'm not exactly sure what I can change/make it not leak. Why isn't it catching all the blood? Has anyone else encountered this? What can I do? There is no way in heck that I could go back to using pads and tampons, so I would like to be able to fix this. Thanks in advance!

Average time for a guy to be able to hold out for..

I'm trying to find out for my roommate, who's frustrated because her boyfriend can only last 5-15 minutes at a time, what the "average" time a guy can go for is. Any comments are good, thanks!

Wisdom tooth removal: relationship between HBC and dry socket?

I'm getting a wisdom tooth removed on October 5th (just one tooth, the lower right one). I am also currently on the Nuvaring. I've heard that being on hormonal bc can contribute to the chances of getting the dreaded dry socket. How true is this? If it's true, what are some ways I can get around this? I'm away from my calendar right now, but if I can try for a ring-free week around that day, would that be helpful? Thanks!

Do all women require alot of foreplay?

When I am with girls, I do not like to spend a lot of time on foreplay. I usually want to spend, maybe 5 minutes at most, then get down to the deed. Of course, if the sex does not bring the woman to orgasm, after I come I will return to her needs until she cums, no matter how long it takes to accomplish. If I spend any more than 5 minutes on foreplay I lose the passion, and therefore I cannot perform.

So my question is, are the women who don't like to spend a lot of time on foreplay rare? My girlfriend tells me that they are very rare indeed (she also tells me that most girls don't like intercourse, just clitoral stimulation, so I never know what to believe from her), but I really wouldn't know. I haven't been with a lot of women. So the question is do all women require alot of foreplay?

EDIT - I suppose I should have initially added that I suffer from mild erectile dysfunction, so none of this is really a choice on my part. If I usually don't get it in within a few minutes, it doesn't come back up.