Average time for a guy to be able to hold out for..

[villagetheatre.livejournal.com]

I'm trying to find out for my roommate, who's frustrated because her boyfriend can only last 5-15 minutes at a time, what the "average" time a guy can go for is. Any comments are good, thanks!

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[loonylupinlover.livejournal.com]

That's about how long my boyfriend goes and I don't have an issue with it. I'd get sore if we went on longer than that.

[loonylupinlover.livejournal.com]

(Oh, and I orgasm about 85% of the time in 5 minutes or so, so usually it works out just great!)

[moo-c.livejournal.com]

iawtc

[oh-sparks.livejournal.com]

my husband doesn't last very long either.

[this-parachute.livejournal.com]

ICON LOVE <3

[ravens-circle.livejournal.com]

Mine goes for about 15 minutes. I don't have an issue. Anything longer than that without a break will start to hurt me. 5-15 minutes is normal.

[frankprovo.livejournal.com]

For various reasons that we're SLOWLY working on, my current girlfriend usually finds the process painful; sometimes only mildly discomforting; rarely more than slightly-pleasuring... I've fallen into the groove of having my orgasm within 5-10 minutes so that I can switch to doing things that she actually finds pleasurable.

With previous girlfriends, anywhere from 10 to 30 minutes usually. I couldn't fathom going longer--unless lots of breaks and changes in position were happening. I haven't been with a woman that wanted me to go longer, but I'm definitely curious as to how that works and how they make it work.

[alwaysamommy.livejournal.com]

That's about right, and now that he's getting a little older it's more like 5 than 15. While some men can, without the help of drugs most men can't go that long.

[h2ok.livejournal.com]

It depends. As a female, you help the guy last longer. He'll tell me he's getting close, so he'll pull out for a few seconds before we start up again. Going slower helps too. Also, my guy orgasms a lot easier in certain positions, and it takes him longer in others (for instance, girl on top), so we'll switch it up a lot. Sadly, I cannot orgasm during sex, but our sessions are pretty much as long as I want them to be. A lot of the time, he'll let himself orgasm after I tell him I'm starting to get sore, which happens about 25-30 min into the sex.

[villagetheatre.livejournal.com]

wow, I never knew most peoples sex lives were like that! Most guys I've had sex would last for 30-60 minutes, and I'd never get sore. And then the latest guy I was with went for three hours and I never got soar. He could definitely hit my g-spot, but I just have to work with him on letting myself orgasm.

Thanks for enlightening me!

[h2ok.livejournal.com]

Uh, OK?

[doomweasel.livejournal.com]

My SO and I have gone for as long as an hour at a time, but we switch up positions and tempos, and if he feels he's getting close he'll pull out and rest for a few seconds. He also does kegel exercises, which can help a guy prolong his erection.

[syducingfate.livejournal.com]

I think 15-30 minutes is perfect, unfortunately my boy thinks it should be hours and hours.

My best friend (who I sleep with when we're single) is also known as Mr. Marathon and one drunk night it lasted (I kid you not) 9 hours and then after a 2 hour nap, another 4 hours in the morning. I couldn't sit without cringing for 3 days. I'd much rather it was quick!

[syducingfate.livejournal.com]

It was awful! I mean, it was great for awhile, but I was really trying to get him to lay off so I could sleep! It's become a running joke: "If you're not done by 3am, you're just not done. Deal?"

[accident-scene.livejournal.com]

gosh my vaginal muscles cramped just thinking about that.

[hexvenus.livejournal.com]

It depends for us... if we're after a quickie 5-10 minutes is the general rule. Otherwise anywhere between 15 (the average) and 45 minutes (if we're being loving and romantic).

I really don't know where this idea that women want it all night long came from?

[starship.livejournal.com]

Sex for my guy and I can last anywhere from 5 minutes to 30 minutes. Sometimes even more or less. I think a lot of times, people put foreplay into the equation when they say "We had sex for hours!"

If the person and their partner are satisfied, in my opinion, that's long enough. If she's not orgasming during intercourse (which is not at all uncommon), maybe she should consider more foreplay or oral sex before.

[alwaysamommy.livejournal.com]

I agree with this, especially the first half. I can have sex all night, but it involves foreplay, oral, sex, afterplay the leads to more foreplay, then rinse and repeat. The actual PIV rarely lasts longer than 15 minutes each time.

[beijing.livejournal.com]

I had a boyfriend that lasted 30 - 60 minutes and... Got really, really bored. I'd pretty much just lay there and wonder if he was done yet.

My current boyfriend lasts about 5-15 munutes and it seems pretty normal and a lottttt better.

[laurapalmer813.livejournal.com]

15 minutes sounds average to me. I don't like my husband to actually be in there for too long, so I do oral on him until he's almost ready, like less than 5 minutes, and then have at it! I would get sore if he was in there longer! Is your friend actually frustrated because he's not lasting "long enough," or because she's not getting enjoying it as much as she would like? If she's not getting enough foreplay, or enough of the things that really make her toes curl, maybe that's more the issue.

[marinshellstone.livejournal.com]

Do you mean how long of actual intercourse? My last bf could do foreplay for up to an hour but our actual sex only lasted 5-15 minutes also, mostly because of me also. There's only so long I can handle the actual PIV sex before I am tired and uncomfortable. I like quickies, as long as there's been a lot of foreplay and fun sexytimes before.

[purplestarzzz.livejournal.com]

OMG. i was JUST going to ask this.

[cpht.livejournal.com]

My dh and I usually go for 5 to 15 minutes as well. We found something called "Detane" that dh can apply which helps him go even longer than that but I have found that when he uses it, it makes it harder for me to O. When he uses that stuff we can go about a half hour or so but I start to get sore and keep wondering if it will ever end.

[quillty.livejournal.com]

I wonder if that stuff is a numbing agent, like they use in those "lasting pleasure" condoms. If so, it's probably numbing you a bit too, resulting in less sensitivity and lower chance of orgasm.

[cpht.livejournal.com]

It is. It is a low dose of benzocaine. Dh gets disappointed if I don't orgasm so I don't think we will be using that stuff again anytime soon.

[frolicnaked.livejournal.com]

I certainly wouldn't call this "average," but the PIV part of sex with my previous partner ran close to an hour (sometimes a little over or under, of course) each time. Honestly? It's not something I'd wish for again. Soreness wasn't an issue for me, though I can easily see how it would be the case for some others, but on occasion, boredom and sleepiness sometimes were.

And -- I almost hate to say it this way -- but it made it much more difficult to find time for sex. I'm a busy person now and always have been. If I know sex is necessarily always going to be an hour-plus event:

1) Quite frankly, it's sometimes mentally exhausting just to think about, which I'm sure didn't help matters.
2) Practically speaking, there days -- sometimes several in a row, in fact -- when I don't have that much time all at once to devote to anything. Well, I do, but I tend to want to use those 5 to 7 hours in the middle of the night for sleep. ;)

Has your roommate considered other ways to try to "extend" sex? Not necessarily by asking or trying to get her partner to hold an erection longer, but rather by defining "sex" a little more broadly. Is there enough foreplay involved for her? If the issue is that she's not orgasming from PIV, does she or would she consider introducing manual sex, oral sex, or toy play into the equation?

[princess-kessie.livejournal.com]

I much prefer quality over quantity any day. 15 minutes of incredible sex with the DH (ending in a mind-blowing orgasm) is far better than the 2-3 hours of mediocre, orgasm-less sex I got with one of my previous lovers (many, many years ago now).

[my-neighborhood.livejournal.com]

"Only"? That's not bad at all. It's typical, in fact.

[trinity85.livejournal.com]

that doesn't sound too bad. I prefer my partner's dick to be in me for 15 minutes or less. Cuz I have pussy problems and sex is usually painful for me.

[arienna.livejournal.com]

I'd like to chime in with everyone else on the foreplay + PIV + afterplay + repeat as necessary lines. -But- if she's really having a problem with not getting enough PIV and most especially if he's young (which is kinda sounds like they both are) fellows tend to go different lengths of time depending on how many times they've gotten off. I know most of the fellows I've dated go really fast the first time - we usually do that one during the play - and then they last much longer the second time around.

[whorebagxx.livejournal.com]

hmm maybe my guy's weird because he goes for almost an hour?

[imnotyourstarx.livejournal.com]

well, including foreplay and all, we usually go for about 45 minutes to an hour. but as far as actual sex time - id say about 5-10 minutes. and were both totally happy with it. our sex life is fantastic.

[wish-you-would.livejournal.com]

I'd say that's the "average" time for a guy. My current guy is wonderful and can hold himself off for as long as I want him to. :) It's taken him years of practice (and frustration) to get to this point, but SO worth it...

[bubblytoes28.livejournal.com]

It's anywhere from one minute (that's only happened a couple times) to an hour or so.

[circonia.livejournal.com]

My fling took about 15-30 minutes. One night he got drunk and we had sex for a hour, and my vagina hurt so much after that, but it was definitely a memorable night.

[useyourwords.livejournal.com]

with my boy it depends, typically he last 25-40 minutes... but if it's FIRST THING in the morning i am sure to get him off in less than 15 minutes.

[tenna.livejournal.com]

It really depends. I have no idea what it would average out to. Anywhere from 5 minutes to an hour and a half.

[captain-molly.livejournal.com]

Mine can go from 15-45 minutes.

[villagetheatre.livejournal.com]

why does everyone get soar so easily? I never get soar... am I just lucky?

[lemonadelily.livejournal.com]

Anywhere from 5-45 minutes with my current boyfriend.
I do prefer 10-15, anything more than that seems to get a bit dull (unless we're being all sweet and romantic) but I certainly can't keep up my bad girl routine for much longer without sounding fake and just plain silly.
If we go longer than 30 minutes, he ends up feeling a bit uncomfortable (condoms tend to restrict him and chafe) and I end up being so messy that I practically slide off...but not in a good way.

Most of my friends have said their sex lasts from 5-25 minutes, depending on the circumstances.