Is sex like an addiction?

[lunarcapricorn.livejournal.com]

Do some people really NEED sex? Like they can't function without it?

I would like to have a sex-less relationship, but I've noticed that when we go without for a while, my boyfriend gets more determined to have sex. He starts making dirty comments/jokes, grabbing me, touching me more, etc. He's not the nice man I know, he gets scary. Sometimes I really have to fight him off.

I don't understand it because I can go forever without. Do some people just NEED to have sex?

Comments

[oceanica.livejournal.com]

My girlfriend is the same as you -- she told me upfront when we started our relationship that she doesn't ever plan to have sex -- and it's something I've been able to deal with okay.

However, if your guy isn't planning to respect your feelings, I'd say you should seriously start questioning whether you two are right for each other. It could be that he's one of those people who really does need sexual intercourse in order to feel complete, or that he simply isn't willing to go without it, in which case he needs to find someone else, because you shouldn't be coerced into having sex with him just because he wants it. If you don't want it, you don't have to comply with his desires.