becoming comfortable with anilingus / rimming

[leave-it-be.livejournal.com]

i am just FULL of questions today. probably because last night was sort of a breakthrough evening with my S.O.

we were talking about fantasies and whatnot and i asked him if there was anything he fantasizes about that he hadn't told me. he said "one thing..." and after a few minutes of coaxing, he finally told me that he wants to finger me while giving me a rim job. i was a bit taken aback.

i am not a fan of buttholes. in fact, when we first started sleeping together i told him i wasn't into anal play. but most of that was based off of the fact that i don't have any experience with it.

i would really like to be able to do this for him. i love him very much and i'm willing to try new things. who knows, maybe i'll like it... but it took me a while to even get used to the idea of 69ing because i was so paranoid about having his face jammed in my ass (only to find out later that he actually likes that aspect!).

so i spent a while reading up on it today, trying to figure out the best way to go about it and keep everything clean (i've decided a nice piece of saran wrap and some lube is the way to go because there is NO way i'm allowing him to put his tongue on/in my bum) but i'm still a little weirded out by it just because i've always thought that your bum is dirty and so why would anyone want to put their face (let alone their tongue) near it??

does anyone have any words of advice for becoming more comfortable with the whole idea? any personal stories on weird things that can happen while you're down there?

thanks vagpagers.

oh and just a note: he isn't putting any pressure on me to do this. he told me that if it makes me uncomfortable that i don't even have to consider doing it. so no worries there : )

Comments

[feckalyn.livejournal.com]

You should totally read Anal Pleasure and Health: A guide for Men and Women (http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0940208202/104-6853212-9023143?v=glance) by Jack Morin (aka "The Buttfuckers Bible").

I got it on interlibrary loan from my university's library ;)
I think the process of GETTING a copy of this book actually opened me up (so to speak) to anal sex play. It's all about fighting a very deeply ingrained societal taboo. And the librarian handled it quite nicely I must say :)

[leave-it-be.livejournal.com]

hey Feckalyn since you are an oh-so-wonderful maintainer of this Vagina Wonderland i was wondering if i could make a request.

will you please archive this entry? there was a comment written at the bottom (http://www.livejournal.com/community/vaginapagina/5848710.html?thread=67093126#t67093126) that was incredibly helpful for me, and that, along with everyone else's tips, would really be beneficial to have in the archives. especially since there isn't very much in there on the topic.

so i just thought i'd ask :) thanks!

[feckalyn.livejournal.com]

Will do :)

[leave-it-be.livejournal.com]

awesome, thank you so very much

[tealight-rookie.livejournal.com]

Also, you should be able to archive community entries in your own memories section if you want a personal copy of it (unless that is breaking a rule I don't know about?)

[feckalyn.livejournal.com]

There's no rule against that :)

[tealight-rookie.livejournal.com]

Excellent :D