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vaginapagina2005-08-04 10:25 am
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becoming comfortable with anilingus / rimming
i am just FULL of questions today. probably because last night was sort of a breakthrough evening with my S.O.
we were talking about fantasies and whatnot and i asked him if there was anything he fantasizes about that he hadn't told me. he said "one thing..." and after a few minutes of coaxing, he finally told me that he wants to finger me while giving me a rim job. i was a bit taken aback.
i am not a fan of buttholes. in fact, when we first started sleeping together i told him i wasn't into anal play. but most of that was based off of the fact that i don't have any experience with it.
i would really like to be able to do this for him. i love him very much and i'm willing to try new things. who knows, maybe i'll like it... but it took me a while to even get used to the idea of 69ing because i was so paranoid about having his face jammed in my ass (only to find out later that he actually likes that aspect!).
so i spent a while reading up on it today, trying to figure out the best way to go about it and keep everything clean (i've decided a nice piece of saran wrap and some lube is the way to go because there is NO way i'm allowing him to put his tongue on/in my bum) but i'm still a little weirded out by it just because i've always thought that your bum is dirty and so why would anyone want to put their face (let alone their tongue) near it??
does anyone have any words of advice for becoming more comfortable with the whole idea? any personal stories on weird things that can happen while you're down there?
thanks vagpagers.
oh and just a note: he isn't putting any pressure on me to do this. he told me that if it makes me uncomfortable that i don't even have to consider doing it. so no worries there : )
we were talking about fantasies and whatnot and i asked him if there was anything he fantasizes about that he hadn't told me. he said "one thing..." and after a few minutes of coaxing, he finally told me that he wants to finger me while giving me a rim job. i was a bit taken aback.
i am not a fan of buttholes. in fact, when we first started sleeping together i told him i wasn't into anal play. but most of that was based off of the fact that i don't have any experience with it.
i would really like to be able to do this for him. i love him very much and i'm willing to try new things. who knows, maybe i'll like it... but it took me a while to even get used to the idea of 69ing because i was so paranoid about having his face jammed in my ass (only to find out later that he actually likes that aspect!).
so i spent a while reading up on it today, trying to figure out the best way to go about it and keep everything clean (i've decided a nice piece of saran wrap and some lube is the way to go because there is NO way i'm allowing him to put his tongue on/in my bum) but i'm still a little weirded out by it just because i've always thought that your bum is dirty and so why would anyone want to put their face (let alone their tongue) near it??
does anyone have any words of advice for becoming more comfortable with the whole idea? any personal stories on weird things that can happen while you're down there?
thanks vagpagers.
oh and just a note: he isn't putting any pressure on me to do this. he told me that if it makes me uncomfortable that i don't even have to consider doing it. so no worries there : )
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I dated a guy or two who was into anal and anal "munching" *lol*
It doesn't really matter to them, they like it no matter what, but to the women, we can be a lil' freaked out, naturally...so, me being paranoid about being stinky down there or just flat out tasting nasty, I use flavored lube.
Good luck, relax, and maybe try using a vibrator on your clit, to take your mind off of it. *nods* always works for me.
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flavored lube... that's an excellent idea. and oddly enough we just introduced the vibrator into our gettin'-it-on so the whole using it on the clit sounds really good too. maybe it'll take my mind off of the fact that he's licking my butt!
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I'm not a big anal girl either, but I know that some guys just think that anal stuff is the best thing in the world. I dated a guy for 2 1/2 years that loved anal...and whenever we'd do it, I would grab my vibrator and play with myself, it didn't just make the anal stuff tolerable, it made it pretty enjoyable.
give it a shot, you might just enjoy it, I mean knowing your man enjoys it is pretty much all it takes to get me to do things...