vaginapagina | Your routine/hygiene?

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So, I'm just curious if anyone out there is like me, extremely paranoid about their vagina smelling/looking/whatever to a partner and I'm wondering what/if you do anything special when youre sexually active when someone other than you is going to see it all the time?

I'm currently in a relationship and we havent gotten to that point soon, but I think we may soon. We may also move in together soon so then we would be together 24/7.

As of now I shave & epilate maybe once a month or less often... thats something Ill have to get used to doing all the time.

Also I'll admit sometimes I dont shower everyday so I'll start doing that...
Right now Im really worried if we're 'in the moment' and Im not freshly showered or something, so Im wondering whats your shower-limit for being with someone? As if, if you didnt shower that morning would you excuse yourself to do it? How many hours unshowered do you think you may start to smell? I'm worried I wont smell myself but my partner might, and I wont know.

Also does anyone know how if you wash your hair too often, it actually gets oilier quicker? (its true, your skin is trying to bring back what you washed off even though to you and others its unpleasant (oils, smell)) Could the same thing happen to your vagina? Usually I shower every 2-4 days. But when Im going to be with my partner Im thinking twice a day. Could that mess anything up? Or make me 'dirtier' quicker if Im constantly washing it?

Or does anyone use any feminine wipes? Any suggestions which ones? I'm thinking about buying something like this http://www.drugstore.com/puretouch-feminine-wipes-naturals-flushable-moist-wipes/qxp315929?catid=184078 and marking over the writing on the packets so its not obvious what it is and keeping it in my purse.. Does anyone use wipes like this and have a specific suggestion? I'll probably buy them online rather than in person.

I'm also thinking I may make sure I eat fruit daily... I heard pineapple is good for... the way you may smell/taste there. Anyone have any suggestions there? Is there anything you make sure you eat or make sure you avoid if you know youre going to be sexually active?

basically I think my routine will be, shower twice a day, use feminine wipes before doing anything, and eat fruit like pineapple everyday. Anyone want to share their routine or just things you started doing when you became active? Thanks!

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Thanks so much for the large reply! I feel a little better about my showering then. I feel like most people I talk to, and on tv/movies it seems like most people shower in the morning and evening, everyday..

But I never did (I do put on deodorant before going to bed though) And if its a long weekend and Im not seeing anyone other than my parents it can be as bad as 4 days without a shower. So I thought it would be hard to switch to a twice a day routine. But if not everyone does it, maybe I dont need to stress about that so much.. (although it wont be as long as 4 days if Im with my partner though heh)

My partner has said he prefers clean shaven, but I think hair removal is a completely different subject and I wanted to focus on hygiene advice first. I may research laser hair removal and see how much theyre able to do down there. One day though, not anytime soon.

Do you think any kind of wipe would be safe to use? Unperfumed ones then? Or do you think repeated use of any wipe could mess you up, and its better to just shower and leave it be for 1-2 days whenever you shower next?

I'm a bit tired and braindead from trying to analyze and make sense of Marx, but I just wanted to jump in really quick.

I'm one of those people who doesn't shower at every second. In fact, I just came from the gym a couple of hours ago and only now am going to shower, because honestly, I don't smell bad. The frequency of showering isn't a set one, it's dependent on your own body chemistry.

My mom, for example bathes fairly infrequently, and I've never smelled B.O. on her. She does have to wash her her more frequently, because it get greasy, but other than that, I wouldn't ever know if she hasn't showered. My bf on the other hand gets really sweaty after exercise, so if he's been on a workout binge a couple of showers a day is good. If not, I really don't care.

Same with how my girly bits taste/smell. He's never asked me to shower and scrub before going down on me. In fact, like archangelbeth, he dove right in there at times when I would've rather freshened up first. About the most he's ever asked of me was to wash up a bit after going to pee right before sexytimes, which is totally understandable.

I guess the tl;dr is that it's a matter of preference, and not something to worry over. When you like/love someone you tend to love the way they taste and smell, and you probably don't expect roses and perfume all the time. TV/moves are such an unreliable source of information about such things, it's like expecting to get your medical information from Dr. House. (It's Lupus. It's always Lupus.

Hope that made sense!

The only thing I'd caution with the wipes- if you use it right before he goes down on you, he's probably going to taste the weird wipe flavor. Would you want to lick one of those wipes? I wouldn't, haha. I've never used them, but I'd be especially hesitant to do so right before oral.

What okamikaze said -- this all depends on biochemistry. I only put on deodorant in the morning. I've gone 4+ days without a shower. (Did I mention I really hate to take a shower when I'm having my period? I don't like bleeding on the floor, I don't like bleeding on towels...) I've also been married for over 20 years now!

Basically, if you're happy with your previous routine, I don't think you're going to need to change it up drastically. For one thing, if the new "routine" isn't something you're totally on-board with, and find exhausting/painful/to take too much of your time, you're going to start resenting it, and start resenting that your partner is "making" you do it -- and resenting your partner. And that's kind of the way to a major relationship failure, y'know? Sure, if your partner has a preference, and it's not going to make you resentful to try to fulfill it, it's a gesture of affection to try to follow that preference. But don't anticipate a preference where there might not be one, and especially not when it's going to cut into your routine in a way that is inconvenient.

For wipes? I wouldn't use any of them, honestly, unless you use them already because you want to do so. I'd say that -- again, barring the chance your partner might have atypical scent triggers -- a damp paper towel would be fine for a quick scrub around the external area, or a damp washcloth if you're at home. And that's "at most" -- if you don't feel grubby, then... why absorb the subtext of all the douching commercials, that vaginas are these terrible smelly things that must be tamed by the Chemicals of SCIENCE!, y'know?

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