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Does anyone else have trouble getting off with a partner? I started having sex when I was 19. I'm 27 now and I haven't had a single orgasm with any partners. I feel like every man I've been with thinks my vag is a penis and a few strokes is all it takes me to get me going. I can't come through PIV sex and I'm so jealous of anyone who can. I enjoy the sensation but it's not enough. Mind you I've never been in a long-term relationship so that might affect my comfort level, since most guys I've been with are usually a one-time thing or at the most it lasts a couple of weeks. Anyway.....some times I just want to have sex for the sake of having sex, especially when the guy is super attractive, but I just can't seem to come and I don't know how to instruct them without hurting their super-senstive ego. Not to generalize, but every guy I've been with seems to need some kind of reassurance that they're "doing me right" and I don't know how to say "no, you're doing it all wrong" without being rude, especially when it comes to educating them about my vag. Any suggestions?

or do you think this is somehting I can only achieve in a long-term relationship, where we have time to get to know eachother's bodies better and trust eachother enough to be comfortable to try anything?

Thanks!

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I know this post is late but I am having a similar issue with my boyfriend. He tries to please me so much but it always ends up the same...with him cumming fast and me feeling unsatisfied. I have never had a vaginal orgasm, i can only seem to get off from clitoral stimulation. I told him that and he was cool with it. He started performing oral sex on me but i dont have the heart to tell him that it hurts! I dont know what he's doing down there but it is definitely not pleasurable. I usually end up faking an orgasm just so he could stop. I dont know whats wrong but the two of us just cant seem to get our act together. Someone please helpppp