Herpes question I can't find a straight answer to:

[manda-nut.livejournal.com]

Can some one with herpes still have sex??

It may sound silly, but no one has given me a straight answer on this one. And I didn't find it anywhere else on the community. I don't know which type of herpes I have (when I asked the nurse she looked at me all confused and asked "why does it matter? It's herpes"). I'm on a twice-a-day anti-viral. I've never had a sore in my mouth (or eye or nose etc.). I switched birth control so I only have my period 4 times a year with the hope that fewer hormone changes would mean fewer outbreaks. I'm not at all opposed to using a condom. And I haven't had an outbreak in months.

So what's the scoop? Valtrex ads on tv would have me think they're the only way I may not spread herpes, but it's still going to happen eventually (and I'm allergiv to Valtrex, damn them!). The "INTERNETSS!!!11" would have me think that I should just kill myself now because I'll never find someone to have sex with me. And I've already had one great guy stop dating me when I told him.

Thanks in advance!

Comments

[earthstone.livejournal.com]

YES, you can have sex. your vaginal hole is not welded shut. though if you have sex with an outbreak, it can be rather painful, and your partner will most likely get the virus.

i have herpes,HSV-1(genitals) and i am in a relationship with someone who cares it too, i passed it to them. we talked about it for a while before we had sex, and did our best to not transfer it, but it still happened, even with condoms and no breakout.

you just need to be honest. and yeah, it sucks having to pause being hot and heavy and tell them, but its better to be safe and honest, than have guilt of passing it on without telling the person.

oh, and you should go back to the doctor and find out which kind it is. HSV-1 and HSV-2 can both be on the genitals or mouth.

[earthstone.livejournal.com]

CARRIES, not cares*