One more thing

[kimberle.livejournal.com]

Can any of you tell me more about the differences, more on a technical level, between a vaginal orgasm and a clitoral orgasm? I want to know the mechanics of what happens, why it happens, and why some like one over the other. And, if at all possible, what my friend means by (and I couldn't get this answer out of her) about clitoral ones being more "harsh." I'm rather confused.

Comments

[scien.livejournal.com]

This is a very complicated subject and there is no consensus that I am aware of. People get off on all kinds of things, and a lot of it is mental, not just caused by differences in anatomy - some people are able to easily get off from only clitoral, only vaginal, or indeed only nipple or only mental stimulation, while others don't, or don't regularly, or find things feel different when they are combined... it's highly individual, and we've not nearly been able to fathom the whys and wherefores and hows of it all.

Orgasm is more than just a physical reaction, it's not like you press X so Y happens leading to an orgasm. People get off in all kinds of different ways, and stimulation of various bits simply feels a certain way for some people and a certain way for others.

Your friend's description is indeed a little confusing, but really she is the only one in any kind of position to explain what she meant. That said it can be pretty difficult to try to communicate something so very subjective. My guess would be that she finds clitoral stimulation borderline painful because it is very intense, but she could be trying to get at something else entirely.

[archangelbeth]

*nod* E.g., for me, an orgasm that is triggered by non-clitoral stimulation (or at least non-direct...) is usually more diffuse-feeling. Clitoral ones are stronger, "sharper" feeling, but have a lot less build-up, which is kind of... a let-down, actually, at times, for me. I've read stuff about some people finding non-clitoral stimulation more powerful (maybe it's the increased buildup?), and some people can't get orgasms at all without the clitoris getting some attention.