Relationship Milestones

[ruari-explained.livejournal.com]

I've recently started to see someone new and it got me thinking. How do you decided when to advance the relationship physically (ie kissing, oral, spending the night, sex)? Do you have a set amount of time, like 3 dates before having sex for example, or does it depend on the person?

I just feel silly thinking like "Well, on Tuesday I'll do this for the first time, and then when I see him next week, we'll go to third base. If things progress well, I'll let him stay over on the 23rd..."

Comments

[a-cherry-on-top.livejournal.com]

That sounds like me and my girlfriend. We were set up by mutual friends, so we talked online first. Our first phone call lasted 16 hours, which is absurd, but we stayed up talking the entire night and well into the afternoon. Our first date was (unintentionally) three days long, and we just passed our two year anniversary in October. :)

As for the OP's question, I agree. Go with what feels right. I wouldn't stress over it.

[in-this-love.livejournal.com]

HOLY 16 HOURS!!!!
WHAT DID YOU TALK ABOUT?
that is ridiculously cute though ;)

[a-cherry-on-top.livejournal.com]

I don't even remember! Our entire life histories, I'm sure. By the end, though, I was so sleep deprived that I was giggling about everything. We're apart right now, because she got a good job a few states away, and I'm finishing up my degree, but we talk on the phone about four hours a day. I guess we both just talk a whole lot.

[elettaria.livejournal.com]

Bless, that's really sweet. My cousin did something similar. She met this guy online, they talked online and then started talking on the phone for hours every night (she was in Jerusalem, he was in Paris). After four weeks she went to Paris to meet him. Five days after they met in person, they got engaged. Seven months later he moved to Israel and moved in with her, and a year after they'd first met, they got married. Everyone in the family was astonished, but a year and a half on from the wedding they seem very happy.

[br0ken_dolly]

congrats to you! that's fabulous. i like stories like that :)