my partner has herpes

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ok, we just found out that my fiancee has genital herpes.  i know that there is no 100% safe sex.. but i have a few questions regarding what is safer.

he has only had one outbreak, one small thing that blistered over and has now scabbed, and a little redness on the tip of his penis. 

obviously, we know not to have sex while he is having an outbreak, or if one is coming on.  does this include him performing oral sex on me?  he has never had a cold sore or anything, can it still be transmitted?  should we avoid oral sex all together, during an outbreak or not?

how long after the scab heals is it considered ok to have sex?

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[evr1bugsme.livejournal.com]

Just a curiousity question: any idea how long the herpes laid dormant? I'm assuming, though this could absolutely be incorrect, that fiancee=monogamous and if that is the case it'd be interesting to know how long the herpes laid dormant. And, I may be wrong again, but is it possible (ie you had sexual contact before your fiancee) that you may have been asymptomatic and given it to him? Or, maybe you are just immune already anyway. That could actually be a nice result as you wouldn't have to worry so much about the transmission issue! Hopefully a test result and your doctor could give you more insight into that.

I think cathrynclaire covered you questions so I have nothing more to add, and I apologize in advance if my questions are out of place. Thanks for any info though.