Is sex like an addiction?

[lunarcapricorn.livejournal.com]

Do some people really NEED sex? Like they can't function without it?

I would like to have a sex-less relationship, but I've noticed that when we go without for a while, my boyfriend gets more determined to have sex. He starts making dirty comments/jokes, grabbing me, touching me more, etc. He's not the nice man I know, he gets scary. Sometimes I really have to fight him off.

I don't understand it because I can go forever without. Do some people just NEED to have sex?

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[uterinelining.livejournal.com]

Your boyfriend is an abusive piece of shit.

Nobody NEEDS to have sex, either.

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[poonchkie.livejournal.com]

Obviously, no one needs sex to go on living... it's not like air, food, water, or shelter. However, when people say they NEED sex, I think most people say it in a way where if they don't have it, then they feel their life in incomplete. Just like some people say they NEED their family and others want to have NOTHING to do with their family... It's a personal heiarchy of needs. Just like I said earlier... I may/can/will go without intercourse for long periods of time. But I sure do need some sort of sexual release whether it be kinks, touching, whatever. And I'm sure that when people don't get SOME sort of sexual release, they can be uptight, wound up, grouchy, depressed, etc.

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[glassrose.livejournal.com]

I agree!

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