nervous about sex

[bloody-words.livejournal.com]

I have been dating my boyfriend almost a year now, and we both enjoy having sex with each other but within the last 4 months or so I have become very paranoid about getting pregnant. Because of this I haven't been enjoying sex as much, and don't want to at all sometimes just because I am so afraid of getting pregnant.

We use condoms every time and he's very careful with using them, but I still can't seem to shake the thought in the back of my mind. I spoke with my doctor and because of some past health problems in my family she said I shouldn't be on hormonal birth control.

Also, I normally weigh about 115-120 and anytime my weight fluctuates or I think something has changed about my body, I automatically think I'm pregnant and start to freak out. Lately I've been feeling kind of sick, and I freak myself out even more then.

I'm just wondering if anyone has any pointers on how I can keep my mind off this and start enjoying sex again. Or if anyone has had similar experiences and what you do about it?

Comments

[astarlitnight.livejournal.com]

Probably not the answer you want to hear, but I was the same way and the only thing that put my mind at ease was not having sex. Ever.
Its not impossible, and it doesn't make your relationship any less meaningful.

[bloody-words.livejournal.com]

how did you bring it up with your boyfriend? and was he completely open to the idea at first?

i've kind of brought it up before...but he doesn't seem to completely understand. he also kind of thinks if i don't want to be having sex with him, i might be getting it else where.

[astarlitnight.livejournal.com]

I just said "We're not going to have sex anymore, 'kay?".
Of course he was open to the idea... he loves and respects me, not to mention the fact that he doesn't want to be a parent, either.
Look, if he doesn't trust you/respect you enough to not have sex with you, then he's not really a good boyfriend, is he? Even if my boyfriend didn't understand completely why I didn't want to have sex, he would respect it.
If he breaks up with you, its really his loss, is it not?
Don't stress it. Do what feels right FOR YOU... your body is not something he has a right to in any means. You get to decide if he gets to have sex with you. Period.
Don't be afraid to say no!
Okay I'm done. That was long.

[bloody-words.livejournal.com]

very true. thank you. :)