https://bloody-words.livejournal.com/ ([identity profile] bloody-words.livejournal.com) wrote in [community profile] vaginapagina2006-09-26 05:40 pm

nervous about sex

I have been dating my boyfriend almost a year now, and we both enjoy having sex with each other but within the last 4 months or so I have become very paranoid about getting pregnant. Because of this I haven't been enjoying sex as much, and don't want to at all sometimes just because I am so afraid of getting pregnant.

We use condoms every time and he's very careful with using them, but I still can't seem to shake the thought in the back of my mind. I spoke with my doctor and because of some past health problems in my family she said I shouldn't be on hormonal birth control.

Also, I normally weigh about 115-120 and anytime my weight fluctuates or I think something has changed about my body, I automatically think I'm pregnant and start to freak out. Lately I've been feeling kind of sick, and I freak myself out even more then.

I'm just wondering if anyone has any pointers on how I can keep my mind off this and start enjoying sex again. Or if anyone has had similar experiences and what you do about it?

[identity profile] franticalities.livejournal.com 2006-09-26 10:49 pm (UTC)(link)
you cold try fertility tracking along with using condoms. knowing when youre body is or isnt capable of getting pregnant will give you great peace of mind.

[identity profile] franticalities.livejournal.com 2006-09-27 12:27 am (UTC)(link)
do some googling/reading about FAM, which stands for fertility awareness method. If it sounds like something that might b e helpful to you, then i highly, HIGHLY recommend getting yourself a copy of the book Taking Charge of your Fertility, by Toni Weschler. It is fantastic and will etach you all kinds of great stuff about how to take control of your own fertility.

[identity profile] franticalities.livejournal.com 2006-09-27 02:54 am (UTC)(link)
no prob, keep us posted!

i think FAM is really great!