Question, first time.

[x-she.livejournal.com]

If your 16, going to the gynecologist for the first time.. does your mother have to go in the room with you, My mom says she has to and I say she doesn't.

Comments

[quiltingdragon.livejournal.com]

NO, she doesn't, unless it is a doctor's office policy or something weird like that. And unless it is a> life threatening or b>requres surgery/treatment/insurance coverage, the doctor MAY NOT discuss your care with her without your permission. I had my mom stay in the waiting room for the exam/talk, and then "called" her - asked her about family histories of things, etc.That way I had privacy and she still got to ask what she felt she needed to. If you can't tell her no, get the doctor to.

[x-she.livejournal.com]

Thank you, my mom thinks that she needs to hold my hand through everything and well thats sweet and all but I'm more than fine with being alone for it.

[quiltingdragon.livejournal.com]

Mine is like that, i'm 24 and she still feels that way. It's been strange recently with me having to care for her (she's getting fitted for a compression brace for her arm, and she can't use it or get the bandage wet, and thus can do nothing). Hopefully she will loosen up. Tell her now, politely but firmly, because the longer you let her try to hold your hand, the harder it will be for her to let go later. I wish you the best with your appointment.

[beachbanshee.livejournal.com]

Being a Mom of a 16 yo myself. I would want to "hold her hand" to be supportive not intrusive. But only if she wanted me there as I believe in privacy. Be gentle with your Mom it is hard for us to have our "little" girls grow up it, seems so fast. Good Luck!

[ghoti-e.livejournal.com]

If you're not sure how to let her know you'd rather she not join you, you might try thanking her for wanting to support you and be by your side, and tell her that you would be more comfortable with fewer people in the exam room (i.e. just you, doc, and nurse/assistant/intern if there is one). Just be open and honest about being comfortable on your own. Good luck!

[beachbanshee.livejournal.com]

I agree! Be honest with her.

[roseyposey01.livejournal.com]

Especially since this isn't a control issue but a support issue. She's probably just worried about you being uncomfortable and scared, but if you let her know her feelings are appreciated but you'd rather be alone, she sounds as if she'll respect your wishes.

[kimberkid.livejournal.com]

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[ghoti-e.livejournal.com]

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