Threesome + Cranberry Juice Affecting Taste

[raining-aprils.livejournal.com]

Tomorrow I'm going to have my very first threesome.  I've been partners with the boy involved for quite some time now, but I've never been sexual with the other girl.  So, does anyone have any tips to make it extra-enjoyable?

I also currently have a UTI.  (What a sucky time to get one, considering I can't bail out of the threesome now.)  Therefore I'm on my way to the store to buy lots of cranberry juice, but I'm wondering how that's going to affect my vaginal taste?  Also, if I drink plenty of pineapple juice, how is that going to affect the taste when combined with cranberry juice?

Thank you. :-)

Clarification:  It's not that the other two partners are making me do it (they don't even know about the UTI), it's that I still want to do it, especially considering we've been planning this for nearly 2 months now and it's the only day for the next couple of months that our schedules will allow us to get together.

Comments

[velvetheart.livejournal.com]

Actually I think right now having a UTI would be a very good reason to bail out of the threesome. You don't want to add to the irritation you've already got. If the other 2 people aren't willing to give you time to get the girly bits healthy again, then you're better off not having a threesome at all.

That's just my opinion, but I hope that helps.

[jasminelily.livejournal.com]

Agreed -- sex during a UTI is a pretty bad idea, it can be painful and make your UTI a lot worse.

[aoineko.livejournal.com]

Ouch. Don't have sex when you have a UTI.

[aoineko.livejournal.com]

By the way, from personal experience, I think threesomes are a really bad idea.

[ravenousnight.livejournal.com]

It depends on the people involved. I've been in a successful three-way relationship. BUT it took a long time of frustration and trial and error to get that kind of unity. I've been in some really bad threesome situations.

So my advice to original poster would be: communication, communication, communication. If all three people do not understand the dynamics or "rules" of the situation it can turn sour. If you have a UTI and are unable to perform, talk to your partners. They should be accepting of this and not see it as "bailing out" if this is the right situation for you to be in.

[atalanta0jess.livejournal.com]

Please be careful. UTIs are not things that should be taken lightly - you can end up very sick if it spreads to your kidneys. You shouldn't have sex while you have a UTI...your partners need to respect that you need to hold off for awhile to take care of your health. If cranberry juice doesn't do the job (have you considered using pills with concentrate instead?), please get it checked out. UTIs can get much worse so quickly.

[lindsey-nichole.livejournal.com]

I'd definitely postpone any sexual activity until your UTI clears up. It will further irritate your urethra which can make the infection worse or drag out longer.

[lindsey-nichole.livejournal.com]

Also, if they consider this "bailing out", do they really respect you and your health enough for you to be in this type of situation with them?

[atalanta0jess.livejournal.com]

And also, if "bailing out" because you decided you weren't comfortable doing it for ANY reason would be a problem, or if you feel like you can't back out, are they the right people to be doing this with? Shouldn't it be an extremely low pressure situation?

[lindsey-nichole.livejournal.com]

Agreed.

[redhawknflight.livejournal.com]

Personally, I wouldn't go through with it now, but if I did for the reasons you describe, I'd avoid vagina penetration/stimulation, and stick to anal or oral participation. You do NOT want to make the UTI worse. Also, I'd tell my partners about the UTI if I were you. If you aren't comfortable telling them about it, then you have to question if these honestly are partners you trust enough to have a threesome with. I've had numerous 3way relationships, and if I were them I'd want to know that one of my partners was hurting, and why. trust is the MOST important thing in a multi-partner situation.

[lindsey-nichole.livejournal.com]

Unfortunately, any stimulation near her girly bits is likely to contribute. Oral sex has just as much likelyhood of forcing bacteria in her urethra as any other type of stimulation or penetration.

[redhawknflight.livejournal.com]

I perhaps wasn't clear, I meant giving, rather than recieving oral

[lindsey-nichole.livejournal.com]

That would certaintly be a better option. When I reread your comment this time, I realized that's what you meant - sorry!

[redhawknflight.livejournal.com]

S'ok, I do the same thing at times

[ilovehounds.livejournal.com]

since you seem pretty nervous about your first threesome to begin with, i don't think you're going to be able to relax and enjoy yourself properly. i would postpone it for a time when all three of you are healthy and can relax. the last thing in the world you want when someone is going down on you is to be stuck in your head with paranoias. oral sex is no good for a woman who can't relax.

and i've had threesomes (and sexual encounters with more than two other partners). it can work wonderfully. but if you are in a relationship with the male, you all need to be VERY clear on the expectations for during and particularly for AFTER the threesome. are you cool if she starts calling or emailing him privately or is that not allowed? things like that.

one way or the other, safety first!

[-crys336-.livejournal.com]

I am with everyone else. I would wait it out.

I recently had a first threesome also, and before that had been dealing with some pretty minor irritation. The high tension and nerves I had before the 3some and then the actions of that night lead to a supra infection of both yeast and BV. Also folliculitus. heh. Ahhh the memories.... I had at least 2 weeks of being extremely uncomfortable. I wish I had waited longer and listened to my body more.

Just my 2 cents.

[beyondcrazy4you.livejournal.com]

...Herro.

Anyway, I've heard that any tart/sour fruits make you taste better, and cranberry is one of them. It may actually make you taste even sweeter than you already do!

[ginnipher.livejournal.com]

That's a relief to me, because I love cranberry juice. Haha.

[laura-thrice.livejournal.com]

I know cranberry juice is recommended here all the time for UTIs, but in a nursing research class, a classmate of mine researched this and found cranberry juice doesn't help if someone already has the UTI. A lot of research was done, and he looked at several double-blind studies that showed that it's more of a psychosomatic thing than something that works without fail. Cranberry juice as a prophylactic measure, on the other hand, is valid. It keeps the pH of urine within a normal range, thereby preventing the formation of stones and the growth of bacteria. (I suppose drinking it with a UTI will prevent it from getting worse, but won't make it go away). I don't have resources available right now, as I haven't researched this myself. This is something I learned in a nursing class (nursing research and in a separate class, pathophysiology). I just wanted to clarify.

Also, I would highly highly recommed holding off sex while having a UTI. This will complicate the UTI tenfold!!

[laura-thrice.livejournal.com]

(third year nursing student and home health aide ^^)

[http://users.livejournal.com/_norma_jeane_/]

DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH A UTI!!!

You could push the infection further up and have it spread to your kidneys. Is renal disease worth the pleasure/fun a threesome?

[dolmena.livejournal.com]

If I were you, I'd think about whether it would be okay for you to be there without receiving any direct stimulation in the area of your vulva. UTIs can go from mildly-not-fun to emergency room time quickly sometimes, and most of the most fun things to do have a risk of inviting in extra bacteria. On the other hand, from my experience with threesomes, I'd say depending on the other two it might be okay to "give a little more than you receive" for the first time.