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vaginapagina2006-08-09 03:21 pm
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passing genital herpes
I have a quick question.
Does anyone on this community have genital herpes (either type1 or type2) and have condomless sex with their partner anyway? If so, has your partner been tested and has he/she gotten it?
I've been reading and it seems that "everyone" who has the herpes virus, either type on either location (oral or genital) can spread it to anyone at any time. But i've been reading stuff online about people who have type1 genital herpes and still have condomless sex and for some reason, their partner hasn't gotten it. (even after years of sex) ...Seems odd? So some people are more contagious than others i guess?
I saw a gyno last week because i was told i had gential herpes, type1. I went there to ask her questions and have her explain to me how i got it. She kinda dismissed it and told me herpes was a "can of worms." She told me she doesn't know if i'll pass it to someone or not. However, she didn't preach safer sex or anything like that. She made it seem like it wasn't too much of a big deal. Which made me feel better...but everything i read online makes it seem like it's a huge deal.
If you have it, or know someone who has it, how much of a deal is it to you?
(It's weird. People who get herpes type1 on their mouths aren't told they can never kiss anyone again. But people who have type1 on their genitals are told (via the web) to never have condomless sex again.)
Does anyone on this community have genital herpes (either type1 or type2) and have condomless sex with their partner anyway? If so, has your partner been tested and has he/she gotten it?
I've been reading and it seems that "everyone" who has the herpes virus, either type on either location (oral or genital) can spread it to anyone at any time. But i've been reading stuff online about people who have type1 genital herpes and still have condomless sex and for some reason, their partner hasn't gotten it. (even after years of sex) ...Seems odd? So some people are more contagious than others i guess?
I saw a gyno last week because i was told i had gential herpes, type1. I went there to ask her questions and have her explain to me how i got it. She kinda dismissed it and told me herpes was a "can of worms." She told me she doesn't know if i'll pass it to someone or not. However, she didn't preach safer sex or anything like that. She made it seem like it wasn't too much of a big deal. Which made me feel better...but everything i read online makes it seem like it's a huge deal.
If you have it, or know someone who has it, how much of a deal is it to you?
(It's weird. People who get herpes type1 on their mouths aren't told they can never kiss anyone again. But people who have type1 on their genitals are told (via the web) to never have condomless sex again.)
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and yeah, it's so not fair at all. I mean, it's "okay" to assume that people have a need to kiss ... but people don't have a need to have sex? My long-time friend, Kiara, has herpes type1 on her mouth. she gets horrible outbreaks monthly right before her period. I was talking to her about it, and told her that she and i both have the same type. And she was like, no way. I'm ONLY contagious when i have an outbreak. And i wanted to punch her in the face and say, "uh no! that's jsut what society allows you to think. Because ppl with it on their mouths aren't whores."
People think that if you have genital herpes you sleep around. and that's just not true. and not fair.
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If it means anything - I don't think this makes you "slutty" in the least, no matter what type of Herpes you have, or how it was contracted - or anyone else with any type of STI. And it isn't true or fair for people to look at herpes or any STI for that matter, they way they do. Hopefully one day we can all be thoroughly educated on the matter - and the risks and prevention.
*hugs*