painful sex and orgasms

[groupieforhire.livejournal.com]

Hey everyone. I have three random questions which (I think/hope) are pretty unrelated.

The first is about orgasms, in response to the multiple orgasm post below. Forget multiple orgams; are there women who simply can't orgasm from intercourse? It took my current boyfriend 3 months of trying, but (unlike those before him) he succeeded orally and we haven't had much of a problem with that since. Vaginal, on the other hand, usually feels nice, but I've never felt orgasmy, if that makes since. Are there a lot of women like that?

Question number two... anal... any ways to make it less uncomfortable?

And question number three... sex has always been pretty painful for me. Mostly sort of a stinging kind of pain; we have to stop somewhat often, and the only way to make it stop hurting is usually to take a bath (the hot water seems to help a lot). I've gotten it checked out, but haven't gotten any good answers. It's not BV, 90% chance it's not endometriosis, etc. Could it just be that my boyfriend's a bit, well, large? Any other ideas?

Thanks in advance for your help!

Comments

[groupieforhire.livejournal.com]

Thanks for your advice! I'll definitely try slowing down and using fingers. I don't think we could really have sex more often... it's usually about every day, and sometimes more, so I'd have to set an alarm for a 3am booty call to fit it in ;) Condoms did hurt more, but we both got tested and we've been going au naturel for a little over a year. How did you know you were allergic to semen? Semen always hurts like crazy, although I kinda figured it was the salt hitting the open skin from stretching.

[princess-kessie.livejournal.com]

I get intense itching if we have unprotected sex - then end up incredibly sore for the next week - like I've been badly burned both inside and out. We persisted for a year, thinking I might just get used to it, but it got worse and worse. We went back to condoms, and the reaction went away inside a week. So I went for allergy testing, and among my many many allergies, I am officially allergic to his semen...I have heard that it is actually not *that* uncommon to be allergic to your partner's semen - go figure!