1- I can't come at all unless I'm touching my clit. As good as other stimulation or penetration is, I have to touch my clit.
2 - There was a great post on anal sex the other day that I think got added to the memories. My advice is to incorporate some type of anal play more often (a finger or tongue or small toy) so that you're used to stimulation and relaxation around your ass. Then it should be easier to relax and enjoy his penis inside you.
3 - Do you feel that you're lubricated enough? Any insertion before I'm wet enough makes it incredibly stingy for me. I use lube 80% of the time -- just not that naturally juicy! Certain dildos would always cause a horrible painful stinginess as well until I switched to all silicone. You may have a sensitivity -- there are silicone lubes you can try out (can't use them with silicone toys.) My first boyfriend used the natural lamb condoms and I have a horrible rash and reaction to those.
In terms of him being "too big" that's not likely. I figure, if I can fist a girl (inserting my entire hand into her) with enough lube and relaxation, the "he's too big" arguement doesn't hold. . . . I would discuss it with your doctor though, and take the advice of the other smart ladies here.
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2 - There was a great post on anal sex the other day that I think got added to the memories. My advice is to incorporate some type of anal play more often (a finger or tongue or small toy) so that you're used to stimulation and relaxation around your ass. Then it should be easier to relax and enjoy his penis inside you.
3 - Do you feel that you're lubricated enough? Any insertion before I'm wet enough makes it incredibly stingy for me. I use lube 80% of the time -- just not that naturally juicy! Certain dildos would always cause a horrible painful stinginess as well until I switched to all silicone. You may have a sensitivity -- there are silicone lubes you can try out (can't use them with silicone toys.) My first boyfriend used the natural lamb condoms and I have a horrible rash and reaction to those.
In terms of him being "too big" that's not likely. I figure, if I can fist a girl (inserting my entire hand into her) with enough lube and relaxation, the "he's too big" arguement doesn't hold. . . . I would discuss it with your doctor though, and take the advice of the other smart ladies here.