need advice

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I just found out that I'm pregnant. I want to keep the baby but I don't want to tell the father about it. The reason is that he isn't my boyfriend, he actually is engaged to someone else...I know, it's bad that I slept with him, but that's in the past and I want to make the best of the situation from now on. He does a lot of drugs, he's not a responsible person in my opinion and I don't want him to be involved with my kid. I know he would not be happy to hear I'm pregnant anyway. Can I just refuse to state the father's name? Will there be legal problems or something? Do you think it's ethical to do that or do I have to "give him a chance"?

I don't know, I'm confused right now but my instinct is just to keep him away :(

Comments

[leave-it-be.livejournal.com]

oh man. that's a bit of a pickle, isn't it?

honestly, my first response is to keep him away. he sounds a lot like my cousin, who's a bit of a loser (addicted to meth, deadbeat dad, twice divorced and basically just an overall difficult person to deal with) and i've seen the grief he's caused his family and the damage he's done to his kids.

but in not acknowledging that he's the father, you will have a much more difficult time getting child support and other things. babies are a might bit expensive.

not to mention if i were him, i'd want to know that i have a child running around out there and what happens if your baby wants to know who their father is?

i don't know. i'm sorry that this isn't much help. i can only imagine how confused you must be at this point but i'm really happy to hear that you're keeping your baby.

i hope things become a little clearer *hugs*