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A little confused...a tad bit worried...

Ok, ladies, it's not too often that I need help, but today is obviously a different story...

*How common is it for men to get bladder infections?? UTI's??
*What's the difference between a bladder infection and a UTI??

Why do I ask?? Well, my BF woke up this morning and had some painful urination. Of course, he's lookin at me with a crazy eye, but I KNOW I don't have anything. I just had an "All-Clear" pap smear a few weeks ago, and I figure that my doc would have told me if somethin seemed strange. I looked up Chlamydia and Ghoneria (sp?) and they are associated with painful urnination but it also said that syptoms appear 7-21 days after exposure. I haven't cheated on him, especially in the past 7-21 days. Any ideas what's going on? Please let me know somethin because right now, he's practically convinced that I've given him somethin. Oh, and are there any places that can do CHEAP same-day testing (I already called Planned P-hood, can't get me in until May 2)?? I live in Houston, BTW...

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It's uncommon but not impossible for a man to get a UTI. A UTI and a bladder infection are really the same thing...UTI stands for urinary tract infection, bladder infection obviously implies the bladder but people use the term when they just mean UTI quite frequently.

Your doctor didn't necessarily do an STD check on the pap, you have to ask for it. It's possible you've had chlamydia for a long time without symptoms (men are more likely to actually see symptoms than women) and have passed it to him if you've just recently stopped using condoms or something.

Also this only happened this morning? If he keeps having painful urination he should go to a doctor, if it's a one-time thing, don't worry about it.

I'm a little concerned that he's so suspicious of you, especially of you cheating. If something is wrong, it's important not to throw accusations around, and don't let him accuse you of doing something you didn't just because he's scared and doesn't understand what's going on.

Well, his mom is a doctor or nurse (can't remember) and she tells him that is uncommon so he's TOTALLY ruled it out as a possibilty (which sucks). And I can't have Chlamydia because I've already been tested for it. It came out negative of course. This is the first time this has EVER happened to him. I asked if he felt uncomfortable or cramping and he said no. I asked for any other symptoms and he said no. And about him being suspicious, well I've lied to him in the past, so of course that affects trust in general, so I understand why he's being so cautious (though it does kinda offend me). But what I don't understand is why a few months ago, I saw a box of AZO (an OTC for bladder infections) on his dresser, so I don't know. I never asked why he had it, and it was unopened. He is an athlete and drinks A LOT of water. And he smokes weed. To clean out his system he takes Niacin pills. I wondering if any of this (more specifically, the Niacin) could couse his burning sensation during urination...

AZO is just a urinary analgesic, it stops pain during urination without treating any of the underlying causes. So if he's had AZO lying around for a while, well, I'd doubt that this is the first time he's had burning during urination.

true, but it wasn't opened, so he never took it. hell, i don't know. he's at at some court house for an extra credit assignment right now, so we haven't really been able to talk. i'll just wait till he gets home. thanks for all your help...

Males can absolutely get bladder infections and UTI.

To my knowledge, a bladder infection is actuallyt in the bladder, on its way to the kidneys. A UTI is still only in the urinary tract, ie urethra. Both have similar symptoms for me, and can be treated with simply antibiotics and that notorious anastehtic that makes your urin bright orange. :)

Your bf is over-reacting, UTIs and bladder infections are nto AS common with males (again, to my knowledge) but they aren't uncommon either. Just tell him to go to the doctor, then excpet some BIG flowers and candy with the apology for ever doubting you.

Just tell him to go to the doctor, then excpet some BIG flowers and candy with the apology for ever doubting you.

awww, thanks!! you have definitely made me feel better.

UTI refers to the entire urinary tract- urethra, bladder, ureters, & kidneys- not just the urethra. Bladder infection or kidney infections are both terms used for UTI's- they were used more in the past by doctors but not so much any more though you will still hear them occasionally. IF the infection has definantly in the kidneys it is usually called Pyelonephritis. Any UTI can move to the kidney and then potentially the blood stream & rest of the body so any time someone has sympotoms they need to be checked out & treated appropriatly. Cool Nurse has a good information & links- http://www.coolnurse.com/bladder.htm

thanks for the link...

i think they are about 5 times more common in girls than boys. but i also think this stat is for kids, not adults.

It's not as common in males as in females, but it's entirely possible.

If there's no way you could have exposed yourself, and he refuses to accept that it might be a UTI or bladder infection, consider that it's possible he has exposed himself and it working hard on misdirection- if he puts you on the defensive enough, you may not have time to get angry at him. I hope that's not offensive, just something to think about. Definitely definitely get both of you tested ASAP and use condoms till then.

thanks. we'll definitely have to do that.

My boyfriend had a UTI that progressed to a kidney infection when he was 10 years old. He says it's the most painful thing he's ever been through, and he has no clue how he got it.

Tell your boyfriend to go to an urgent care place and take a UTI pee test. Then get his sorry ass to apologize to you for ever doubting your fidelity!

lol. he has reason to doubt me because i've lied to him in the past (not cheated though), so i kinda understand. it only happened this morning, so i don't know what he plans on doing yet...

No, the doctor won't test you for STDs unless you ask for them. The pap smear is not an STD test.
You and your boyfriend should BOTH visit the doctor and get tested for STDs. (Naturally he should ask for a UTI test first as men can get them). Women often have no symptoms for many common STDs (like Chlamydia).
If you do come up positive, there's always a chance, don't panic, just get treated and try to move on together and stay safe!

yea, you're right. they don't test for std's unless you ask. i just realized what i said. i guess i was in such a panic, that i didn't realize i knew that info already. the big problem is that he wants a test NOW but they're so expensive, for one, and for two, until he gets a test, he's gonna think i've cheated and our relationship is gonna be hell...

If he's willing to write you off at a moments notice as a cheater because *his* penis is burning when he pees, there might be a problem. He needs to realize that even if you do have an STD there is no fault, just the need to be more careful. It's just as likely it could be him right?

No, I was the one who he gave his virginity to. The lasted time I was tested was the fall of 2003 (when I first started college). I just think he needs to make sure it's not a UTI or bladder infection before he automatically accuses me of cheating...

I dont think it's that uncommon for men to get UTIs.
My fiance has had two in his life (which I've only had one, so. . .) It's horrible for men because they have to get this huge-ass q-tip shoved up their urethra!

He should just go to the DR, they'll give him a pee test, and probably some antibiotics. . .

Ladies, forgive me for I am a tad sensitive, but I really can't express my gratitude for the creators and members of this community. I reach out to you, ladies, as if you were my best friends. The fact that you women help other women, whom you've probably never have and never will meet, is so wonderful. *tears up* Thank ya'll so much!!

And now for my update:
Because my BF was at court, he was able to explain the entire situation to me. It seems as though this painful urination he experienced was AFTER he got out of the shower. He just called and admitted that there's a good chance that it was soap that had entered his penis. He also mentioned that he's urinated quite a few times since the burning and has experienced none of the such. But to give him piece of mind, I am still going to go get tested. I am a firm believer (because of past instances) that if there's any doubt in a relationship, it is best to reslove as efficiently and expediently as possible. But I must say that I appreciate each and every woman that responded to my frantic post. THANK YOU SO MUCH! *Hugs* (very big ones)

*he WASN'T able to explain..

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