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vaginapagina2002-08-19 05:54 pm
garygetsnolove.livejournal.com) wrote in vaginapagina2002-08-19 05:54 pm
Vagina? Lesbian anyone?
I want to clear up some things that I had asked a new member who happens to be a fabulously patient and kind person.
I asked her if she was a true lesbian.
I want to elaborate on that, just for a minute.
No one should ever have to prove how much of a lesbian they are. Right? I totally agree that no one but You can decide what you would like to call yourself in regards to your sexuality.
But does your vagina know?
I mean, if you are the type of lesbian that cannot get turned on mentally by a man, is your vagina gonna know, and is it gonna be more tense?
In the same aspect, if you're a lesbian who can also enjoy sex with men, mentally and physically, is your vagina down with penis?
Does your vagina have a direct link with your brain when it comes to this stuff, and does it have more say in how you feel about having sex than we ever thought?
One time I "did stuff" with a guy. I mean, nothing involving vaginal sex, but other stuff. And although my body was aroused, my brain was not. Im a lesbian, and have known this for a long time. So I know that I could probably have sex with a guy, and I could probably be turned on. But I think my vagina might put up a stink. It might tighten, tense up and not let the penis in. It might scream in pain afterwards. Is this possible?
Thanks for your comments, in advance.
I asked her if she was a true lesbian.
I want to elaborate on that, just for a minute.
No one should ever have to prove how much of a lesbian they are. Right? I totally agree that no one but You can decide what you would like to call yourself in regards to your sexuality.
But does your vagina know?
I mean, if you are the type of lesbian that cannot get turned on mentally by a man, is your vagina gonna know, and is it gonna be more tense?
In the same aspect, if you're a lesbian who can also enjoy sex with men, mentally and physically, is your vagina down with penis?
Does your vagina have a direct link with your brain when it comes to this stuff, and does it have more say in how you feel about having sex than we ever thought?
One time I "did stuff" with a guy. I mean, nothing involving vaginal sex, but other stuff. And although my body was aroused, my brain was not. Im a lesbian, and have known this for a long time. So I know that I could probably have sex with a guy, and I could probably be turned on. But I think my vagina might put up a stink. It might tighten, tense up and not let the penis in. It might scream in pain afterwards. Is this possible?
Thanks for your comments, in advance.
Re: My buck fiddy
My best friend for a zillion years (since we were little) is a gay man that has (almost) never found women attractive - but (stereotypically, in the sense that he's still a guy) he's extremely aroused by porn featuring girl/girl activity. So I wonder if it's not that unusual. For him - it's all about "like and like" I think. Homosexuality is what 'works' for him, regardless of gender.
I'm a poor judge myself. I'm finding myself becoming 'more and more bi' as the days go on, and what I find arousing can be quite different from time to time and is frequently even rather odd.
To the point of the original post: I think sexual response is incredibly mental, but not ruled by it. In clinical settings, psychologists are sometimes in a position to counsel women who have been raped and, though the event was irredeemably negative, it's a fact that some women experience orgasms during their rapes: a contributing factor to considerable post-traumatic stress. Sometimes our bodies just do what the neurons tell them to do.
Re: My buck fiddy