2006-04-30

sugaring.

I wax pretty regularly, and always use a light dusting of baby powder to keep the wax from sticking to the skin too much.
I'm considering trying sugaring, though. Do you still need the powder with that? Also, I've seen several recipes here for the mixture...but I'm looking for recommendations for one that has worked well for you. A lot of people have said they didn't have any luck with the recipes I've found, so I'm looking for some of you that have had a positive experience with sugaring...

sugaring for newbs

I tried the great sugaring experiment yesterday, and my advice is: it is better to make it too thick rather than too thin. I think I overcooked it a tiny bit at first, because it was very congealed and i had to knead it with my hands to "spread" it on my hair. So then I added a bit of water, heated and stirred. It came out way too thin, and it wouldn't stick up any hair at all.

One thing I noticed, however, was that I actually wasn't completely hairless afterwards. I still had some hair left that looked like it'd just been shaved off at the skin. I don't know if this is because the sugar didn't rip it out by the roots or if it was just natural (I have shaved previously - maybe those hairs just didn't grow out yet?).

Afterward, with the intent of "cleaning up," I took a pair of tweezers to myself and actually proceeded to tweeze the whole area clean.

Talk about having too much time.

skipping period... didn't really work.

so question.

This was my first time trying to skip my period on Ortho-Tri-Cyclen (which I have been on over a year). I started taking actives 2 weeks ago (during my placebo week) and ever since then I have been continually spotting. The first 3 days consisted of dark period-like blood... and now it's just random bleeding. It stops and starts and I don't really know what else to do beside wear a pad constantly just to be safe. Is this normal? Should I discontinue the pills and see if my actually period comes?

help?

smoking on your period

does smoking on your period make cramps worse?
i can't tell if it's just normal hell from cramps. or if smoking makes it worse.
i've also been taking midol menstrual.

Pain and pregnancy question.

Hello Everyone! I was put on Yasmin over two months ago to regulate my very irregular periods. I stopped taking it a couple of weeks ago at the end of the pack due to some nasty side effects it was giving me. Now according to my chart I should have been ovulating Thursday, and my cervical mucus had changed during that time as its supposed to. I had sex on Wednesday and Friday. Yesterday evening I started having a pain in my left lower abdomen, where you would normally experience menstrual cramps. This feels like a pulled muscle though, when I take deep breaths it hurts. Did I actually pull something, or does this have to do with pregnancy?
Thanks for you help!

Assorted questions about yeast infections

Could a yeast infection be described as a disease? I don't think so, but my boyfriend says it is.

Yeast infections do not like the male genitalia, correct? The yeast could be transferred and it is possible to get an infection there, but it is not an ideal habitat?

Canesten for yeast infection

I've got the yeastie beasties (well, I haven't been diagnosed but I'm 99.9% sure that's what it is, I get them a LOT) and haven't used this particular brand before. I inserted the first of the 3-day tablets and am experiencing something odd. I don't really know how to explain this, but...every few moments my vagina feels like it's burping. It feels like I've peed myself, and it grows VERY hot for a few seconds and then passes. I used Monistat before and experienced severe pain only moments after using the first tablet. I ended up having to go to the E.R and the nurses said I probably had a rare allergic reaction, which made me a bit leery to try another brand. So far it's ok except for this hot-hot peeing sensation. Is that normal?

Lost wetness?

I've been sexually active for 2 years, and i have never had a problem with wetness before. I feel no anxiety or pressure or anything over sex.

Two? days ago, we had sex 5 times in about 2 hours, and i, obviously, had problems getting wet toward the end. The fingers went fine, but when it came to insertion, it was like oh. it's rather dry. We kept at it, and once we got it in and got going, it was no problem. Today, the third and fourth times we had sex (we sound like rabbits, jeez) i again had a problem getting wet enough. As before, once we got going, it was fine.

So i'm thinking my body just needs a little more recoop time in between, but i wanted to throw my predicament out there for further commentation.

Thanks! :)

Xanax affecting period?

I've been on Xanax XR for the past one and a half months or so (1-2mg/day), and seem to be completely skipping my period this month. I'm not sexually active or on birth control pills and have not changed my diet, exercise, etc. Has anyone heard of Xanax having an effect on one's cycle? Thanks in advance.

Sex drive/libido question

Hello lovely ladies --

To start, I checked the memories/tags/etc and didn't find what I was looking for. Basically, I am incapable of bringing my sex drive out when I want it. It's like I'm really, really, really repressed about it. I can get horny when I'm on my own, enjoy masturbation, think lusty thoughts... I have some of the most ridiculously dirty dreams of anyone I know (I tell them to my boyfriend sometimes and he thinks I'm kidding because they are so much more, well, sex-ful than I am). I lust after my boyfriend plenty. I can get really horny and want to jump him like crazy when he's not around (it's a long distance relationship). But as soon as I'm handed the opportunity, I can't myself even remotely turned on. If he tries to interest me in sex, and often even just making out, it grosses me out and pisses me off.

WHAT. THE. HELL.

At the beginning of the relationship, I had a really amazing sex drive. I'm not on HBC (I have a Mirena, but it's very recent, and if anything, my sex drive has increased slightly since getting it, but there's definitely been no decrease since getting it). I know that stress/depression/etc can have an effect on libido, but my stress/depression/etc has stayed pretty much constant (high, but constant--the same height it was at during times when I've had a sex drive). I KNOW I'm a sexual person, because I can't stop thinking about it and I get really horny when I'm alone and I write really raunchy sex scenes into my writing (and then delete them because they don't fit, but nonetheless) and when I get even just a drop of alcohol in me I become like a sex goddess. I am, so far as I can tell, really repressed and smothering of my sex drive.

It's ruining my relationship, and I'm not okay with that. We've been having some issues recently, but the sex drive problem has been longer than the issues. And the problem is, that a lot of the issues stem out of the sex drive problem. They are problems that could easily be remedied if I could get back even HALF a sex drive so that when things go well I could get into the idea of having sex and we could reward ourselves--that sounds dumb, but I'm sure you all understand what I mean about how if we could have even just a LITTLE bit of sex, it would really help make us more easily able to work through our issues.

I've never been great at bringing out my sex drive, and I want to be able to break down my inhibitions without having to drink a glass or two of wine every time I want to get in the mood, you know? Please help me! If you are going to recommend therapy or something, please give me advice on how to find the right kind of therapist. If you are going to recommend herbs or supplements or something, please tell me names and suggest somewhere I could get them (such as "a natural foods store," or "a drug store" or "this website ____" since I realize you don't all live near me and can't tell me exactly where) because some specific information would help so, so much.

Thank you in advance for any help! You girls are universally the best, so far as I've been able to tell ;)

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anal-anomalies

Perineum problems (TMI warning)

For the last couple of years I've had a recurrent problem with the skin of my perineum. On a regular basis, maybe every other week, when doing #2, my skin down there splits - only the uppermost layer of the skin, just enough to show a fine red line when I check with a mirror, and very, very rarely a tiny amount of bleeding. It mostly happens when I have hardish stools or when I have diarrhea but sometimes also when there is no reason at all.
These skin splits heal very quickly and I haven't been able to show them to a doctor. There is no yeast present, and no other infection. Just the "ouch" moment, and then it really burns like hell for a few days when peeing...

Now, I know that I should avoid constipation and diarrhea, but I live in a country where things can be a bit hit or miss in terms of cleanliness, and I tend to not be the "daily" person. Of course I try not to irritate things with rough toilet paper or harsh soap. But other than that I really have no clue what to do.

Background info: 38, not on hormonal bc, no births (or pregnancies), no hemorrhoids, no other skin issues.

Any ideas as to what this might be? Had it and fixed it?

My new experience with birth control

After talking to my wonderful boyfriend, I finally decided that it was smart for me to go on birth control. I did some research and I decided to go with the Nuva Ring, which my doctor also thought was a good idea for me.

Today was the day that I started, and I'm kind of freaked out about it. Not that there's anything wrong with the ring itself (besides me realizing that my 3 week/1 week ritual would be a lot easier with short fingernails). Sex is nothing new to me either, nor is the insertion aspect since I've used tampons for years. I think the uncomfortable feeling comes from the idea that birth control is a very "grown up" decision. I'm acknowledging that sex could get me pregnant and thoughtfully making the decision that I'm not ready for that. It's startling to me to have chosen to go on birth control with this boyfriend, simply because I'm at that point in my life where a lot of my peers are getting married (I'm the type of person who keeps saying that marriage and children will never be for me). If it wasn't this guy, I probably wouldn't commit to hormonal birth control. Something about this guy makes me completely comfortable with the thought of not using condoms (I've never not used a condom). It feels like a startling grown up commitment, and I think that's why I'm mainly freaked out. Does that make sense at all?

Now for questions. I read on the packaging that the ring can be harmful if swallowed and the leaflet even listed the information for the poison control center (yikes!). Does this mean anything negative for oral sex, or is it just a warning for my boyfriend not to chew on my Nuva Ring? :P

Also, I know the Nuva website says most male partners can't feel the ring, but I was wondering if any of you experienced anything different? Have any males commented on being able to feel the ring during sex?

Lastly, have any of you females out there had the experience of the ring making them queasy? I haven't been feeling very well lately (messed up eating habits and stress) and would like to know if I should keep an eye on the ring as possibly making the nausea a little worse.

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discharge

MUCUS THINGY?

Today I masturbated and when I took my finger out, there was like.. mucus on my finger.
and when i say mucus, i mean A BIG GLOB OF SNOT (it most likely wasn't snot, but it really did look like I just sneezed on my finger)
Is that normal? What is that?

Current Music: ACDC-back in black

too rough/bleeding after manual sex

Hello all! first post here!
me and my bf have boon together for 6 months and have been having sex for 4 of them. though we are in a long distance relationship (different colleges) and only see eachother once a month for 3 days or so.
when we start forplay he usually fingers me and it feels really nice when it is actually happening and we tend to get a bit rough. afterwords i always am bleeding and he has had many a time when it ends up on his hands. I am absolutely horrified because it doesnt hurt! he mostly is just worried that he is hurting me! i am fairly petite and he probably is just being a littly rough because we are excited to actually be with eachother.
i was wondering:
1-is that probably the reason? being to rough/too long fingernails on his part?

2- how do i tell him that i want to adjust the way that he fingers me without sounding mean? i just dont want him to think he is hurting me because hes not!

thanks in advance...and i loooove this community!
-ty

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bumps-and-cysts

Sebacious zits?

I've looked into the archives and have found some useful stuff about my problem, but I'm still kinda freaked about the lumps in the forest thing. The first time I found one, it was really close to being in my vag. I had it checked out and the doctor told me it was nothing to worry about and that it would go away (which it did), but she really didn't explain to me what it was. It didn't hurt and I didn't know it was there unless I felt it with my finger.

I'm not sure it was the same as what I've been suffering lately (and if it really is what I'd believed to be snatch pimples, I've been suffering them for a while, even before I started having sex).

I was found std-free since before I found the first one (but hadn't changed partners yet), but since the last time I was checked out, I've had unprotected sex. I know I should go get checked again, and I will, but I just need to lose a little tension.

Ugh, this post is scattered.

Okay, I usually get these pimpley lumps that are sometimes rather large and painful to be merely pimples. The big ones are always among the pubes, and the smaller ones (like, pea sized) tend to appear on the labia (that's the outer lips, right?). They feel pretty solid for pimples, but I have popped them before and they gush like zits (big zits filled with lots of pus and clear stuff). They hurt when I touch them (like a pimple in the ear hurts).

Is this anything to be horribly horribly worried about? When I read about stds, they always say that sores appear, but there's no mention of zits. When I read about sebacious gland inflamations or sebacious cysts, it seems to fit the bill a little more. How long do these things last?

I don't know if this is related, but it is very abnormal that I get stressed about things, and April was a very (very) very stressful month. My face has been breaking out in zits, too, and that never happens either.

I currently have two lumps: one in my fur and the other on my labia. The appeared when the month's stresses were just starting to calm down.

Another thing I need to mention: The first one, in the pubes, I think I felt it forming. I had scratched an itch down there, and felt a bit of a pinch, so I kept my hand on it, and I swear I could feel a lump swelling, and there it was. What's it all mean? It's driving me nuts just thinking about it!

Edit Thank you all for your wonderful and informative comments that have put my mind at ease. And thank you to

geminigirl and

lisamaria for giving me a nice warning and not banning me for using the c word.

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Last night my boyfriend fingered me pretty rough and I woke up with a, what you'd call, swollen vagina. Only half of it was swollen, however, and it died down within a few hours; it still kind of hurts. Something leads me to believe his nails possibly cut me or something of the sort. Is this normal due to the circumstance?