I too suffer from PCOS. I have wicked facial hair and without birthcontrol I would never have periods. I went through a period in my life where I just told my self I was neither male or female. It wasnt until later that I started calling myself the bearded lady lol. My point is, maybe you're not feeling much like a girl because your condition has masculine traits? Gender is fluid enough to never have to choose a label. but since you have a medical conditon that pushes boundaries hormonally (ie men grow beards and women dont kind of thing) it could make things complicated. Point is, you are who you feel like being. and if you're a bearded lady like me, then that's okay too!