Question...

[ldygabilan.livejournal.com]

Why doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me. I mean... we fool around and do sexual things. But, the actual ACT of sex doesn't seem appealing to him anymore.. ever.

He'll go down on me, use the vibrator on me and he'll even jack off to me. But, he hasn't been in the mood for actual intercourse in what seems like weeks.

It's all fun when he does that other stuff to me.. but I really would just to have him, you know? What can I do? Is this my fault??

Comments

[ldygabilan.livejournal.com]

We've talked about it a few times. He says sometimes he just likes to get off a certain way.

I don't know really what it is.. I guess I could see that. But, I can't help but wonder if what if he doesn't really love me as much as he thought he did when we first started getting serious and his subconscience is giving him guilt and so it's hard for him to actually go through the act of making love since he knows how much that's a symbol to me?

Although, he says he loves me.. I'm just a paranoid freak. heh.

[simian.livejournal.com]

yeah, don't complicate it too much. I can understand his point of view though, even though I'm a woman...

Even though sex with my boyfriend is very satisfying, sometimes I'd prefer just to have oral sex (or 69 with him), or just spend some time w/ myself and a dirty story website :P Other times, I'd rather just give and not receive myself.

If really varies due to stress, energy level, and just horniness at the time. He's probably like that.

I'd say don't stress too much over it, unless he starts ignoring you in other ways too.

[quixotic.livejournal.com]

does he know the way that not having sex makes you feel?

unless he does other things that would suggest that he doesn't love you, i wouldn't read that much into his not wanting to have sex.

-a

[ldygabilan.livejournal.com]

You're probably right.

I'll talk to him about it though, but I'll just let him know how it makes me feel just to double check that there really isn't anything going on inside of his head that he's been trying not to show me.