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[infiniteblue25.livejournal.com]

I remembr when I was 13 and I got my period. I told my mom and she said finally! she got hers when she was 9!!She bought me some kotex pads and spray deodorant for my "area" ( i know.. how horrible) told me to light spray the outside of my underwear No idea what she was thinking! Anyway She and I have my sisters children one being a girl that is now 10 years old. I have a feeling she's gonna get her period soon and i just wanna make it more of a loving celebration and healthy experience for her. Anyone have any ideas? I thought maybe a womyn-box with a mix of products/book/small gifts and of course I want to take her out to dinner and talk to her about it like "grown women" Any suggestions? Anything you wish your MOM would have done? Thanks in advance..

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[kamalea.livejournal.com]

That is just a phenomenal idea. We had our training thing in school - 5th grade, I think - & got that "teen" package from them; we kept it under the sink in the kids bathroom. When it happened, it was traumatic in terms of me wearing white pants at school & getting teased awfully. That, and I had horrific cramps every damned month. My mom was very kind about it, and loving, and my dad/brother didn't bug me too much. But it never felt like the rite of passage openly that it did to me internally. I think what you're doing is really terrific. As others have said, every girl is different & you know your niece best. Definitely the box with info/books, definitely some kind of jewelry/memento gift (the moonstone ring is a neat idea, so is the gem bracelet). I think I would also make it time to talk about some of the other rites of passage - shaving, make-up (maybe let her wear some tinted lip gloss and clear mascara when you go out to dinner?), masturbating ... the things we all struggled through around that age. So exciting to let her know that those aspects of growing up are exciting. But I would DEFINITELY get her OBOS above all else; more answers in there than she will hopefully ever need.

It's a little bit of a tangent, but what about information about masturbation? According to my diaries, 10 is when I started masturbating (I even drew pictures!). Knowing that for years I used a marker (eeww, I know), I would really have loved to have had one of the little mini-dildos or vibrators you can get...

[infiniteblue25.livejournal.com]

well, she already shaves and wears a LITTLE makeup from time to time, wears a bra ect thats why I think her "dot"as she calls it is gonna get here soon.. Yeah I know my mom NEVER talked to me about masturbation. We don't have talks about it now even though she has mentioned it " I masterbate every six months wether i need it or not, hahahah" she's silly. I will definitely look for some books on the subject and mention to her that everyone does it and it's a perfectly natural, healthy,private activity.