men declining sex

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i never fail to feel hurt when my BF declines sex. it's super silly because when i'm not in the mood he is completely accepting. BUT, if i initiate and he turns me down it becomes a huge issue for me. as in, we need to have a 2 hour long conversation for me to feel okay about it.

anyone else this way? it makes me feel bad because he's a person not a sex machine and he is TOTALLY entitled to his own personal sex drive, it just ends up making me feel vulnerable and stupid when i want sex and he doesn't.

also, we have great sex all the time and it is the most healthy and fufilling sexual relationship i've ever had.

Comments

[ennazusmiranda.livejournal.com]

Through my experience I have come to look at life and relationships as a dance. The most successful relationships are those where you learn to dance together.... to respond, to react, to accept, to change steps, to communicate through subtle gestures and a shift in energy without the need for verbal communication. It's complex and rich and takes a lot of time and practice to master. But, in the end if you take this approach you might find that it's a useful change in perspective that will help how you feel and how you respond to his ever-changing moods just as he is constantly changing and adjusting his steps to better match your own.

Anyhow, it's all just a thought that I wanted to share...... I hope that some of it helps somehow..... Good luck, sweetie navigating your tender emotions. I know how hard it can be at times. *hugs*