men declining sex

[lovethatlovage.livejournal.com]

i never fail to feel hurt when my BF declines sex. it's super silly because when i'm not in the mood he is completely accepting. BUT, if i initiate and he turns me down it becomes a huge issue for me. as in, we need to have a 2 hour long conversation for me to feel okay about it.

anyone else this way? it makes me feel bad because he's a person not a sex machine and he is TOTALLY entitled to his own personal sex drive, it just ends up making me feel vulnerable and stupid when i want sex and he doesn't.

also, we have great sex all the time and it is the most healthy and fufilling sexual relationship i've ever had.

Comments

[my-neighborhood.livejournal.com]

I think one of the main reasons this is so common is because we're all led to believe that men are non-stop sex machines. Then, we hit the real world and learn how painfully innacurate that is.

Honestly, it makes me feel really bad for men, because they often have insecurities about not living up to this standard.

It goes to show how the same we all are... everyone has their stereotypes and insecurities that are challenging.