men declining sex

[lovethatlovage.livejournal.com]

i never fail to feel hurt when my BF declines sex. it's super silly because when i'm not in the mood he is completely accepting. BUT, if i initiate and he turns me down it becomes a huge issue for me. as in, we need to have a 2 hour long conversation for me to feel okay about it.

anyone else this way? it makes me feel bad because he's a person not a sex machine and he is TOTALLY entitled to his own personal sex drive, it just ends up making me feel vulnerable and stupid when i want sex and he doesn't.

also, we have great sex all the time and it is the most healthy and fufilling sexual relationship i've ever had.

Comments

[dayglow.livejournal.com]

Agreed on this x14000.

Multiply the issue of 'women's best asset is their sexuality' with 'men are sex-crazed beasts'... being rejected really hurts.

The best thing to do is reject those ideas and view sexuality as a part of a person. It's okay to have a high libido, low libido, multiorgasmic, not orgasmic at all, really kinky or really vanilla. The span of 'normality' in sexuality is probably the widest variety of things I can think of.

I've found that rejecting mainstream ideas about beauty, sex and sexuality, etc has made me a far, far, far happier person.

[trancemanual.livejournal.com]

"Multiply the issue of 'women's best asset is their sexuality' with 'men are sex-crazed beasts'... being rejected really hurts."

agreed agreed agreed
it sucks because it really becomes a double standard how men put up with us not being in the mood (like me not being in the mood earlier today) and then i guess we expect more from them? I think it's just natural in society to have that mindset and i guess you just have to consciously try to step out of it.