Unprotected sex a couple of days before period?

[misfit4leaf.livejournal.com]

A frantic friend of mine wants to know:

She had unprotected sex about two days before the start of her period. She hasn't actually missed a period yet, but I told her I'd ask this fabulous community. The guy never came inside her. What do you think the odds are? I've tried assuring her but she won't listen to me.

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[brightflight.livejournal.com]

I was hoping assertive, not combative. I'm not trying to have a battle of wits with you––I am telling you that if a friend is "frantic" with a pregnancy scare, reassuring her isn't going to determine whether a zygote forms or not––proper medical action will.

And, if the window of time for an Emergency Contraceptive pill has passed, then there really is nothing you can do until she gets whatever pregnancy testing of her choice done, so she might as well relax. (That was the gist of the second bit of my comment.)

I'm not judging anyone for having unprotected sex in the first place. I've had it, and I've been ridiculously anxious following.. But "what are the odds?" is an extremely unintelligent way of approaching the subject––especially asking an internet forum that is peopled with both very knowledgeable and very atrociously misinformed people. There are medical texts, there are reference books; there are reputable websites, even.

(frozen comment) Safe Space Warning

[jocelina.livejournal.com]

Hi, brightflight. I'm writing on behalf of the VP Team to express concern that the attitude and/or wording above do not foster what we consider safe space (http://www.vaginapagina.com/index.php?title=VaginaPagina_FAQ#What_is_.22Safe_Space.22.3F_What_does_.22empowerment.22_mean.3F) in this community.

Telling another member that her post is "an extremely unintelligent way of approaching the subject" is extremely disrespectful. VP exists to provide accurate, factual information -- much of it comes from the medical texts, reference books, and reputable websites you mention, and all of it is evaluated not only by VP's maintainers but by the community as a whole.

While the OP and her friend may wish to seek additional sources of information, there is absolutely nothing wrong with asking questions such as this one in VP, and suggesting that a question is wrong or foolish is both disrespectful and disempowering.

Please consider this a warning as well as a friendly reminder to take this opportunity to review VP's policies. You can find more information on safe space (http://www.vaginapagina.com/index.php?title=VaginaPagina_FAQ#What_is_.22Safe_Space.22.3F_What_does_.22empowerment.22_mean.3F) in our FAQ (http://www.vaginapagina.com/index.php?title=VaginaPagina_FAQ), as linked here:

--What are VP's rules? (http://www.vaginapagina.com/index.php?title=VaginaPagina_FAQ#What_are_the_rules.3F)
--What is "safe space"? What does "empowerment" mean? (http://www.vaginapagina.com/index.php?title=VaginaPagina_FAQ#What_is_.22Safe_Space.22.3F_What_does_.22empowerment.22_mean.3F)

You are more than welcome to make a post over in contact_vp or to contact us via email (http://www.vaginapagina.com/contact.php) if you'd like to talk more about this matter or clarify any points; we only ask that you refrain from commenting further here out of respect for the OP. For that reason, replies to this thread will be frozen.


Jocey
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