sex drive

[flickersticked.livejournal.com]

I'm 23 years old, not on any birth control. I do take pindolol for my fast heartrate and xanax for anxiety but I got off my anti-depressants a while back. I'm in a very serious and committed relationship and I love the boy to death. The thing is, I never want to have sex. Ever. I'd say we average about once a week but if he didn't remind me or make a move it would probably be much less. He's very attractive to me and I am crazy about the boy. So what's the deal?! I want to want to have sex! Today I went out and splurged on some romantic props, candles, a feather tickler thing, blindfold..etc. hoping that will maybe do it for me. Are there any other ideas? I'd appreciate it and I know he would too!

Comments

[alwaysamommy.livejournal.com]

It sounds like side effects of your medication but I think the props are a step in the right direction. Also encourage him to start with lots of foreplay. Looking over at me and asking "Do you wanna have sex?" as if he wants to know if I want a glass of juice does nothing for me. I can imagine it's the same for just about anyone. lol

[flickersticked.livejournal.com]

Haha that sounds like my guy. He doesn't get it because it'd be a huge turn on for him if I asked him like that but it just doesn't work for me. I need to be romanced! :)

[alwaysamommy.livejournal.com]

That might be the biggest part of the problem then. Next time, when he says that just say "If you want it, ya gotta work for it." and wink at him.

[flickersticked.livejournal.com]

I never mastered winking but I'll try something along those lines. :) We've talked about it, we're very communicative about our sexual needs, and I think he understands now what I need.

[alwaysamommy.livejournal.com]

Good. Just don't blame yourself for it. Most women need the emotional bond and want to feel wanted. There's nothing wrong with you for not being turned on by your boyfriend treating your vagina as if it were a glass of juice.