Um, sorry, maybe I have the terms wrong? It's right on the outside of the opening; I've always had a bit of skin there and since I distinctly felt it tear twice as he went in further, I sort of assumed that that had to be the hymen breaking that everyone talks about?

It's maybe right on the edge of the perenium; it's close enough that when I place toilet tissue down there, it rubs it and hurts terribly.

If it's not my hymen, I'm even more confused.