I really appreciate you responding. I think that men need to play a larger role in ending violence against women in general. It's not a women's issue, it's a human issue. Thanks for caring.

I have a couple of guy friends who I feel extremely close to. Unfortunately, one is in Connecticut and the other is in Denmark right now. I love both of them. (Not in love). I feel bad sometimes that they have to deal with my issues. I still can't imagine ever being loved though. I've only had one boyfriend before the jerk who abused and tried to rape me. And that was a pretty co-dependent relationship....

I don't know how to get over feeling so un-lovable.