I'm on my first cycle so I'm still learning, but I would try out menstrual_cups too. To me, the punch down fold is as big as a super tampon, and I can't stick a finger up to break the seal either. Instead I pinch the bottom of the cup and move the bottom a little bit to break the seal. It's worked so far. To help insertion I've also applied glycerin-free lube to the lady bits to make it go smoother. It's worked so far. Good luck! I really like mine.