cysts/zits/ingrown hairs around anal area

[athena-marz.livejournal.com]

Okay I'm a longtime member that hasn't posted in a very long time.
I've got a problem, hopefully you can help me out.

for the past month or two I've been getting these little white spots on my perineum and anal area. I can't tell what they are, they're white and hard, my husband says they look like ingrown hairs or zits, or cysts or something. (Yeah he's real sweet and looks at my butthole for me!)
We tried tweezing them off but they just keep getting worse. I don't know what I should do. I do shave that area so I'm leaning more towards them being ingrown hairs. I should probably stop shaving and try getting waxed instead huh?
I'm a little embarrassed to go to my doctor about this, but it really bugs me.
Any advice?
If you need visuals let me know, I can probably get some pics of the affected area without them being too graphic. lol.

Thanks.