Educate, educate, educate yourself. Tori Weschler's _Taking Charge of your Fertility_, which talks about Fertility Awareness is an excellent way to avoid your fertile days or, if you want to conceive, to take advantage of them. It involves keeping track of your body temp at a consistent time each day, and charting it. Takes some discipline.
For about $20 - $30 at the drug store, in the baby supplies and prophylactics section (condoms and others) you should be able to find a saliva scope. This is a little gizmo for checking the hormonal changes in your saliva that indicate a fertile period - or not. It's pretty simple; a ferning pattern or crystalization indicates that you're fertile. No pattern is a pretty safe inidcation that you're not.
If you use those two in combination, you'll be very aware of what your body is doing - and not doing.
On other topics, is there any reason that you're _not_ using a birth control method beyond condoms? The anxiety is not going to go away until you feel you have a firm grip on things. Anxiety is your body and mind's way of saying "danger! danger!"
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For about $20 - $30 at the drug store, in the baby supplies and prophylactics section (condoms and others) you should be able to find a saliva scope. This is a little gizmo for checking the hormonal changes in your saliva that indicate a fertile period - or not. It's pretty simple; a ferning pattern or crystalization indicates that you're fertile. No pattern is a pretty safe inidcation that you're not.
If you use those two in combination, you'll be very aware of what your body is doing - and not doing.
On other topics, is there any reason that you're _not_ using a birth control method beyond condoms? The anxiety is not going to go away until you feel you have a firm grip on things. Anxiety is your body and mind's way of saying "danger! danger!"