painful sex and orgasms

[groupieforhire.livejournal.com]

Hey everyone. I have three random questions which (I think/hope) are pretty unrelated.

The first is about orgasms, in response to the multiple orgasm post below. Forget multiple orgams; are there women who simply can't orgasm from intercourse? It took my current boyfriend 3 months of trying, but (unlike those before him) he succeeded orally and we haven't had much of a problem with that since. Vaginal, on the other hand, usually feels nice, but I've never felt orgasmy, if that makes since. Are there a lot of women like that?

Question number two... anal... any ways to make it less uncomfortable?

And question number three... sex has always been pretty painful for me. Mostly sort of a stinging kind of pain; we have to stop somewhat often, and the only way to make it stop hurting is usually to take a bath (the hot water seems to help a lot). I've gotten it checked out, but haven't gotten any good answers. It's not BV, 90% chance it's not endometriosis, etc. Could it just be that my boyfriend's a bit, well, large? Any other ideas?

Thanks in advance for your help!

Comments

[deepbluemermaid.livejournal.com]

Hey there - just wanted to ask whether you've seen a doctor about this. It sounds like you could have vaginismus, where - usually for psychological reasons - your vaginal muscles tense up so much that penetration is impossible. Women with vaginismus often can't use tampons, insert fingers, or undergo pelvic exams. There is a difference between being tight, and being so nervous or afraid that the vaginal opening kinda clenches and seems completely shut. Feel free to ask more about vaginismus.

To the OP - sorry for hijacking your post!

[electronickiss.livejournal.com]

That is not entirely impossible. I've often thought about asking about it but always thought it was just being too tight or whatever. Thanks for the suggestion, I'll bring it up to my gyn. :)