vaginapagina | (no subject)

I’m 18, have been dating my boyfriend (who just turned 20) for over two years. When we started having sex it was not the most fantastic thing (physically). It was uncomfortable for me and we weren’t using any lube. Eventually it got to be what I would consider normal. However, penetration is always painful. Even if I orgasm before sex, it still is very uncomfortable.

We just sort of put up with it for the first year or so, thinking it would go away. However, it’s now been almost two years since the first time we slept together (and the first time I slept with anyone), and I still experience the same pain. We’ve started using lube, but it hasn’t helped. To put it graphically, I feel like my labia are being pulled into my vagina. I usually I have to pull them out of the way…and I’m fairly sure that I don’t have unusually large vaginal lips. It also just feels like the opening is too tight, even though we usually/almost always fool around before sex.

Sorry for all the details, it just really sucks. Honestly, I think it bothers my boyfriend more than me because he hates the thought that I always have to experience some kind of pain in order to have sex.

If you have any thoughts or suggestions I would greatly appreciate it.

…It just occurred to me that perhaps I should apply lube all over the place, including the outside of my labia. But that only solves half the problem…

I read the memories and found one woman's comment to a poster that she just has to go easy at the beginning of sex. Like, have him enter her slowly and chill for a bit before going at it, so to speak. Is this good advice? I hate to ask it, because I know there isn't really 'normal' when it comes to sexuality, but there is normal when it comes to anatomy. So, is it 'normal' for some women to have to do this, or is there a way I can make sex better for me and my boy?