I also just had the thought that you are probably still working through SOME things in this relationship. Sure you're not having sex. But you are coming up against things like "I am a bad person for wishing I could have sex with this dude."

I know when I was in similar shoes, I often felt like some kind of awful temptress or something kind of ridiculous like that. There is a lot of "it is bad to be sexual/want sex" that came up for me, which is very well something that you can work through in the context of this relationship.