Your routine/hygiene?

[questionsnat.livejournal.com]

Sorry I made another profile for this question:

So, I'm just curious if anyone out there is like me, extremely paranoid about their vagina smelling/looking/whatever to a partner and I'm wondering what/if you do anything special when youre sexually active when someone other than you is going to see it all the time?

I'm currently in a relationship and we havent gotten to that point soon, but I think we may soon. We may also move in together soon so then we would be together 24/7.

As of now I shave & epilate maybe once a month or less often... thats something Ill have to get used to doing all the time.

Also I'll admit sometimes I dont shower everyday so I'll start doing that...
Right now Im really worried if we're 'in the moment' and Im not freshly showered or something, so Im wondering whats your shower-limit for being with someone? As if, if you didnt shower that morning would you excuse yourself to do it? How many hours unshowered do you think you may start to smell? I'm worried I wont smell myself but my partner might, and I wont know.

Also does anyone know how if you wash your hair too often, it actually gets oilier quicker? (its true, your skin is trying to bring back what you washed off even though to you and others its unpleasant (oils, smell)) Could the same thing happen to your vagina? Usually I shower every 2-4 days. But when Im going to be with my partner Im thinking twice a day. Could that mess anything up? Or make me 'dirtier' quicker if Im constantly washing it?

Or does anyone use any feminine wipes? Any suggestions which ones? I'm thinking about buying something like this http://www.drugstore.com/puretouch-feminine-wipes-naturals-flushable-moist-wipes/qxp315929?catid=184078 and marking over the writing on the packets so its not obvious what it is and keeping it in my purse.. Does anyone use wipes like this and have a specific suggestion? I'll probably buy them online rather than in person.


I'm also thinking I may make sure I eat fruit daily... I heard pineapple is good for... the way you may smell/taste there. Anyone have any suggestions there? Is there anything you make sure you eat or make sure you avoid if you know youre going to be sexually active?

basically I think my routine will be, shower twice a day, use feminine wipes before doing anything, and eat fruit like pineapple everyday. Anyone want to share their routine or just things you started doing when you became active? Thanks!

Comments

[soulsearch2010.livejournal.com]

Good question :)

I'm self-conscious about my vag as well before sex. I usually shower once everyday anyway, but I've usually always showered before sex. I've only not showered once before sex and I still enjoyed it, but I wouldn't let him go down on me, even though he did and actually got in there, and I let him, but kept waiting for him to look up and scrunch his nose...haha....but he never did...which makes me question his hygiene...haha...but I still stopped him cause I was too self-conscious to let him continue. So I shower, that way I can enjoy all the wonders of sex without worrying. I just use soap down there and rinse really well cause you don't want any residue left over, it might get itchy or whatever.

Also I will not go down on someone who hasn't showered, but I will do everything else. But taht's just me.

From what I've heard and read....most guys don't seem to care much about smells and stuff. I think like anything else we just get self-conscious about our own body, but other people are obvlivious to it.

Maybe instead of showering everyday, if you're feeling self-conscious, you can just use go into the washroom and run a baby wipe through it real quick?

I don't think overwashing your vag can make it get dirtier quicker, unless by overwashing you're drying it out, which can attract make it irritable? I'm just thinking of when my hands get dry, they get kind of itchy and that goes for other parts of my body as well, but my vag seems to be okay with one wash a day.

[questionsnat.livejournal.com]

Thanks, you sound like me! I think even if I accept it and think "well we're in the mood and he loves me.. I dont need to be 100% freshly showered.." That I will STILL feel uncomfortable and not be able to enjoy it enough by being worried.

See, I feel like Ive experienced the opposite about guys and smell. I have some guy friends and more than once I remember jokes about a woman's area being smelly or someone mocking an old gf's vagina... and I just hear it more in media.. its a "joke" that woman smell fishy but you never hear anything about penises smelling. So thats just why Im paranoid. My boyfriend hasnt been with too many girls either so I dont want him to be disappointed/surprised/weirded out by any smell.


I was going to buy specific feminine hygiene wipes like from the Vagisil company but reading this community a lot of people use baby wipes so maybe Ill just buy those.

[sweetchild92.livejournal.com]

Making fun of someone's genital odor is pretty tactless and rude, so don't base your opinions on awful comments like that. Penises most certainly can smell, but it's easier to portray vaginas as smelling bad since the general patriarchal culture deems them less than.

[soulsearch2010.livejournal.com]

:) Yeah, I can totally relate to your concern.

Although I probably should have mentioned that my worries about a guy going down on me don't really have to do with my vag smell (like other posters I believe that most guys do appreciate the smells and other wonders that go on in our lovely vages), it's more to do with my butt area, but again from what i've heard, as in talking to girlfriends...guys don't really care, even when they vocally say, "hey here's what's been going on with my vag, you may not want to venture down there this time around" they've still gotten positive responses...as in the guy couldn't care less.

Now this could be that they're so turned on or in the moment that they just go for it anyway, I know I've done this when a guy's penis isn't smelling great, but never had one yet that was so bad I couldn't bear to go near it, so I just continue. But even if that is the case, i don't think they would ever tell you, because then they wouldn't get to have sex....haha....so why worry about it?

I think archangel has it right, maybe change some of your routine, but don't get to the point where you're so stressed your not having fun anymore. because nobody's perfect. I'm sure your bf won't smell great all the time either. but that's where the love part kicks in :)

I've never used feminie hygiene wipes so I can't really tell advise you there, but baby wipes are gentle, cheap and quick, also like another poster said, bf can help you with the cleaning in the form of a vag massage :)

Have fun!