Your routine/hygiene?

[questionsnat.livejournal.com]

Sorry I made another profile for this question:

So, I'm just curious if anyone out there is like me, extremely paranoid about their vagina smelling/looking/whatever to a partner and I'm wondering what/if you do anything special when youre sexually active when someone other than you is going to see it all the time?

I'm currently in a relationship and we havent gotten to that point soon, but I think we may soon. We may also move in together soon so then we would be together 24/7.

As of now I shave & epilate maybe once a month or less often... thats something Ill have to get used to doing all the time.

Also I'll admit sometimes I dont shower everyday so I'll start doing that...
Right now Im really worried if we're 'in the moment' and Im not freshly showered or something, so Im wondering whats your shower-limit for being with someone? As if, if you didnt shower that morning would you excuse yourself to do it? How many hours unshowered do you think you may start to smell? I'm worried I wont smell myself but my partner might, and I wont know.

Also does anyone know how if you wash your hair too often, it actually gets oilier quicker? (its true, your skin is trying to bring back what you washed off even though to you and others its unpleasant (oils, smell)) Could the same thing happen to your vagina? Usually I shower every 2-4 days. But when Im going to be with my partner Im thinking twice a day. Could that mess anything up? Or make me 'dirtier' quicker if Im constantly washing it?

Or does anyone use any feminine wipes? Any suggestions which ones? I'm thinking about buying something like this http://www.drugstore.com/puretouch-feminine-wipes-naturals-flushable-moist-wipes/qxp315929?catid=184078 and marking over the writing on the packets so its not obvious what it is and keeping it in my purse.. Does anyone use wipes like this and have a specific suggestion? I'll probably buy them online rather than in person.


I'm also thinking I may make sure I eat fruit daily... I heard pineapple is good for... the way you may smell/taste there. Anyone have any suggestions there? Is there anything you make sure you eat or make sure you avoid if you know youre going to be sexually active?

basically I think my routine will be, shower twice a day, use feminine wipes before doing anything, and eat fruit like pineapple everyday. Anyone want to share their routine or just things you started doing when you became active? Thanks!

Comments

[nickelshoe.livejournal.com]

If my husband and I feel like having sex (and have the opportunity), we do. I've never stopped him because I wasn't clean enough. I bathe every 2-3 days if I'm not getting sweaty during the day.

I've asked him to brush his teeth, but never to wash his genitals in over five years of sex. Are you expecting your partner to do this stuff? Two showers a day plus feminine/masculine wipes?

An adult human usually does have a particular smell. That's okay! You shouldn't have to smell like roses to have sex. Sex doesn't smell like roses. Reasonably clean is fine, but fresh out of the shower is unnecessary for most people.

[questionsnat.livejournal.com]

Thanks, I know maybe I am too sensitive. I understand I shouldnt care so much, and Ill try to be more open, but I am hoping i get some kind of specific advice here about best wipes, or things to eat too etc.


I have once mentioned to my BF I would like if he showered more... sometimes I think it'll be up to 3 days and because hes going to need a shower anyway I think he wants to get intimate so he has more reason to shower...

which slightly frustrates me that he's not being considerate of me. I think his thought process is "I need a shower today. I should get frisky to get it done with, then I can shower!" Rather than how I feel-- I want to be freshly showered and smell nice BEFORE.

I havent been mean about it but it did bother me. Plus I feel like theres more a stigma for people with vaginas... ive heard male friends joke about women smelling there, or jokes on tv/movies about the fish smell and stuff. You never really hear that joke the other way around. So I just dont want my boyfriend to find anything unpleasant about me. We're sexual with it comes to him, but I have not been comfortable enough to do anything with my body, so we're waiting and I just want it to be worth the wait for him lol.

[rileycostello.livejournal.com]

I am usually leery posting here (all the terminology is intimidating and I don't want to offend), but:

I am friends with mostly guys and yes- they do ALWAYS talk about how a female 'smells' or 'tastes' "down there". It's a constant topic of conversation in the circles I participate in (most of them are actively dating and not settled down yet). I usually have to be the educating voice with them to set them straight. They all thought that vaginas SHOULD smell like fish and you just have to "get over it"- I'm sorry, but if a girl smells like fish she probably has an infection or imbalance of some sort- I've never met a girl who said a fishy smell was normal for her! Usually, for me, a normal smell is slightly musky- it's very distinct, but it's not fishy at all and is just... its own smell. Everyone smells differently. I like to think that, at least with my male friends, I've helped them be more... conscientious, accepting, and willing to be kind to a girl and tell her nicely if they think something is 'off' versus just not seeing her anymore and avoiding her.

I've also been friends with people who talk about the level of cleanliness of the gentlemen they've been seeing; various terms are used fairly frequently, so it -does- happen.

I agree with you though- I like to FEEL clean so I KNOW I smell okay or at least less musky; I'm VERY self-conscious about how a potential partner will feel about it, and as a result I -never- ever ever ever ever want oral sex performed on me. It actually gives me panic attacks thinking about it.

Good luck, I'll be reading the comments for advice too ;)

[anchorsandhope.livejournal.com]

this!